This is beyond the Work Friends [which we don't associate with outside of work] I am curious . . . I think it has been years for myself and generally it is usually a friend of a friend type of thing How long as it been since you made a new nonwork related friend? Rocket River
****. Now that I think about it... probably 5 years. But I guess it's not all bad. I've moved 3-4 times in that time span and have been with my wife throughout, so when I go out I'm not usually looking to chill with brahs. Still, I should probably join a YMCA or something and start shooting **** in the showers. Need to meet some bros.
5-10 years at least. I've been cool with my closest friend since we were four years old and went to the same daycare. That was 25 years ago.
It's hard to make friends in this world. Everyone is busy. When you move, you get to start all over, at least in terms of finding anybody you can hang out with outside of vacation. If you have a busy work schedule and family, that makes it difficult to fit much in. Still, I would like to be making more; I always want to hang out. Having kids is often something that divides people. Most of my old friends don't have them yet, and possibly never will. Even if we lived in the same town... they would have to be understanding and kid-friendly. Our hangouts would mostly be things like Chick-Fil-A and the splash pad, we would be dealing with little people while we talked, and getting a sitter is great but you can't do that every day. It helps if they have kids of their own; the bigger ones can entertain each other. So the newer friends I've made have been other people with children... I should probably try to make stronger connections at my son's preschool and lessons once fall starts. I don't know that I'm going to fit into mainstream mommy world, though. I don't feel like I have the "look", I work (at a job people find intimidating for some reason), and I'm not great at domestic things. I wish everybody could just chill and hang out and talk and have a good time, regardless of age or gender or parent status or looks or "type". But most people aren't very open to others once they've been adults a while.
Nothing like friendships that have stood the test of time since sandlot days to HS, college , " Real World"
Life stages are a real barrier. My hs buddies with kids are almost dead to me the whole year except for a few days. I travel a bit, but still they should make time for me when I visit.
There was a while when I hadn't made any new friends in a while, but over the past year or so, I've gotten added onto some gmail groups for football and basketball. Since then, I've made a lot of new friends that I've gotten pretty close to.
Besides spending time with my GF, and some family etc. The only other people I occasionally hanging out with are past / present coworkers.
Haven't had a friend since high school. Between work, family, kids just don't have the time and honestly I don't really miss it.
Meetups...especially those that cater to your specific interests or hobbies...can be a pretty good way to meet new people and make new friends.
Made friends far easier before marriage and children.... Makes a huge difference. When I was single is was insanely easy.... Only thing easier was finding women that wanted to do unseemly acts. Now I am happier, life is more rewarding but seeing friends is rarer and the spontaneous elements are less common. I am a better person though.
