If it weren't for my dog, I think I would kill myself.

A trippin' trip trap?

Agree with others, cheating is definitely crossing the line and you shouldn't go on the trip with her.

Cheaters are likely to cheating again, it also shows that she wasn't committed to the relationship and is not right for you.

 

Men cheat because it is in our DNA.

Women cheat when they are ready to move on.

 

Train the dog to bite her!

 

As a male, I think that statement is complete and total bull****. It is used as an excuse for men to cheat and get cheap thrills from hoes. Society tends to paint a picture that when men cheat it should be more "acceptable." If not stated explicitly, it is definitely implied.

 

I tend to agree.


I see where the person who posted that comment is going with the DNA thing, but that's a total cop-out.

 

Given what's going on there's no way this trip will be fun for you with her there with you. Go by yourself, or have a friend go with you.

As for the relationship, trust has been broken, and in this case it's usually tough to get it back. I know it hurts like hell to have someone you love stick a knife in your back. Like others have said, everyone goes through this at some juncture.

Thank god you found this out now as opposed to down the line where you could have actually been married to her, and worse, had kids involved.

I know it seems like the end of the world, but trust me it isn't. This is just one chapter of your life. Think about it, are you willing to give some lying, cheating woman that much power over you that you would consider ending your life? Just chalk it up as a learning experience and move on.

ALL of us get knocked down in life, and it's what you do afterwards that counts the most. Are you going to stay down and let this bump in the road screw up your whole life (or god forbid end your life), OR are you going to pick yourself up off the floor and keep pressing forward?

It's basically a choice that you have to make, and only YOU can make it.

Life isn't a destination my friend it's a journey, and you have so many awesome things to experience in your life. You just happen to be in a storm right now, but trust me, the storm will pass.

You are stronger than you think, and you will get this.

Every time you think about this girl, instead of thinking about all the good times you had with her, think about what she did to you and this will give you the motivation to move on and start another journey.

Please keep us updated on how you're doing. Again everyone goes through this, and you'll get through it and be stronger and wiser.

 

Life is so precious, even when we feel we may have it the worst it's still immensely valuable and beautiful, cherish it bro.

If I where you, break it off with your girl, close her out your life and get over her. Try to spend the most time you can with friends and family, and of course your dog. I wish for the best for you, keep your head up.

 

4. Start working out.

Those endorphins will really help

 

been in this road before... heartache will make you stronger and wiser. when i think of it now, it tickles me.

 

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Quicker it happens, quicker you can pick yourself up. You have a full life ahead of you; this will just be a bump.

 

“And when you look at the sky you know you are looking at stars which are hundreds and thousands of light-years away from you. And some of the stars don’t even exist anymore because their light has taken so long to get to us that they are already dead, or they have exploded and collapsed into red dwarfs. And that makes you seem very small, and if you have difficult things in you life it is nice to think that they are what is called negligible, which means they are so small you don’t have to take them into account when you are calculating something.” -mark haddon

with all that said, keep things in perspective. look at the grand scheme of things. keep things at their right size.

 

Ditch her ASA

Cut off all contact with her. Find other activities to keep you occupied.

 

This. It takes time to get over a hard breakup, especially one that lasted 5 years AND especially when it ends the way yours did. Lots of us have been there, man. Ive been there, man. I actually just went through a hard one and trust me on this- It gets better every day.

You have lots of moves to make now. Focus on getting her out of your life in any way possible. That means kick her ass out of the apartment, get everything she owns out, and any memories of her out of there too. I was throwing away clothes, pictures, deleting pictures (good ones, too), getting rid of anything that would remind me of her. You want a clean slate.

Start working out, taking the dog to dog parks or on long walks, and just getting out there meeting new people. You are only 23 and have more than 3/4 of your life to live. There are so many other girls out there its ridiculous!

 

Screw her one last time then kick her out.

 

Yeah get active and start focusing on yourself. Dude you can do WHATEVER THE F*** you want to now. You have the complete freedom to take your life in the direction you want to take it. You are 23 with your entire life ahead of you, you dodged a bullet. Anyone willing to cheat on you after 5 years is not worth a second of your time. Delete her number so you can't drunk text her and start tossing the sentimental things you are keeping after you kick her out. Pick up a hobby/skill like cooking or fishing or biking.

I just got through a bad breakup after a long relationship and am around your age. I was a mess afterwards but once I started rebuilding my social life and getting active I started having a blast. I had more fun than I ever did with her.

Also get on Tinder or something, the realization that there are other better and hotter girls out there will help out.

Cancel the trip and kick her ass out ASAFP. You have to make the right decisions here and not the easy ones. Will keeping her around be good for you? Take your dog and a few buddies and go on a road trip somewhere.

 

Fixed.

 

Sad to see two CFers recently complimenting suicide. You guys are both so young and to even think about throwing it all away just makes me sad.

However, it is a good thing that you are talking about it. Don't stop doing that. Don't hide these thoughts or keep them to yourself.

When I was 19 I found out my gf of 2 years was driving out to go bang her exbf when she told me she was visiting her sick grandma. She had a dog that I loved and the both of them would have nowhere to go if I were to kick her out. So I made a deal: you can live here for 2 months rent free while you get your **** together and find a place to live, but I'm keeping the dog. She agreed because really she had no choice. I still have the dog.

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Our situations were different though because I had no feelings at all for her anymore. I was upset(ish) but was also really happy to be single again. She tried her damndest to get me back (ifyouknowwhatImean) but I turned her down every time. That felt good.

So I guess I'd say take a bit to step back and think things through thoroughly. Think long term. And like others have said... don't go on the trip.

 

If you can afford it, go see a therapist. It sounds like you are being taken advantage of big time.

 

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