OK the other day while riding around with some of my friends a girl, who is a lesbian, asked me if I would donate my sperm so that she could have a baby. Now I doubt very much that she was serious but I stated that I would not do it with her let alone anybody plus the fact that she is my girlfriend's sister. There are a couple reasons why I wouldn't do this. One, I just couldn't donate sperm to somebody that I know and know that this is a child that I am half of, it would be different if I donated to a sperm bank and the process was anonymous. Two, I believe that a child should be raised in an environment where THEY are allowed to find their own sexuality or sexual preferences and not be taught what is right and wrong and I believe the person mentioned would provide an environment where the child is taught being gay is the only right thing. So guys, if a gay woman asked you to donate sperm so that she could have a baby would you do it or gals if a gay man asked you to bear a child so that he could have one would you do that?
Do it only if you are prepared to take responsilbility for the life you are helping to create; financially, emotionally and fully in case something happens to the mother. Same thing with unprotected sex. You make the baby and you are responsible for the baby..for life. Your sperm, your child.... except in an anonymous donor situation through a reputable fertility clinic.
You should see the Big Chill. I wouldn't do because that child is gonna want to know who his or her father is.
Well, if she is your girlfriend (possibly your future wife)'s sister, then that would make you the baby's father (definitely) and uncle (possibly). In all seriousness, that is just too complicated of a situation. Too much explaining to do when the child gets older.
Good one pgabriel. In fact I know two brothers who are also actually cousins because their w**** of a mother slept with a guy and got pregnant and his brother and got pregnant.
Good post, GP. For me, it would have nothing to do with the sexual orientation of the parents... I think they can do a good job, and they want the child.
I haven't read it recently...but it seems to me that in Texas, you can be on the hook for child support even if you're merely donating sperm. Child support belongs to the child...no one can waive his rights to support for him.
Those who wouldn't do this, is it because: a) Parents are gay b) Financial/legal liability c) Just too uncomfortable with the quasi-father/uncle thing I have no issue with a), and am comfortable b) could be worked out, but I do struggle with c).
This was a hard one. I might do it. If I really liked the person who wanted my sperm. It would be easier, but maybe less rewarding also, if it was an anonymous process. I wouldn´t worry that much about the child being "taught" to be gay. I don´t think it can be taught, not completely. Who do you know that learned all they know (are even a lot) about sexuality from their parents anyway. You should be nice and helpful to ladies who want your sperm.
I agree with all three, even though I was "best man" at my school friend's "joining" ceremony with her companion. She wore a tux and it was a lot of fun, especially the "batchelor" party I threw for her! I just think that is not right for women to conceive via the turkey baster method. They should do it the old fashioned way.
That was the first thing that came to my mind too after reading his post. I would most definately pass on the offer.