At what distance is it not rude to go on your way? Someone's when old people are about 30ft away I'll hold it open, but **** it takes like 40 minutes for them to Limp to the door.
If it will take them longer than 5 seconds, they're on their own. Exceptions can be made for the elderly, those with small children, and pretty ladies whose booties you would like to see.
i figure that if i could let the door go and the girl isn't there by the time it closes, then she's too far away to hold it. of course if the girl is a babe i'll wait a bit longer
Don't look for an excuse as to "how far can they be?" or "how long should I open it?" Are you taking into consideration how fast they're walking toward the door you're holding? What, now you're going to be factoring in how much strength it takes for you to open the door for someone? Stop being selfish and hold the door. If you don't have time to be courteous, then you're just not courteous. Stop looking for a way to justify your being discourteous. Open the door and hold it, lazy *ss.
The trick is to walk in really fast, that way you can pretend that you are in a rush and did not notice the person behind you.
The worst is when you're walking up the stairs in a parking garage and you hold the door open for the person behind you...and they aren't exiting on that floor. So you holding the door is actually slowing them down. If you hold the door for them, it's not their level. If you DON'T hold the door for them, it IS their level and you're an *******.
Don't look for an excuse as to "how far can they be?" or "how long should I open it?" Are you taking into consideration how fast they're walking toward the door you're holding? What, now you're going to be factoring in how much strength it takes for you to open the door for someone? Stop being selfish and hold the door. If you don't have time to be courteous, then you're just not courteous. Stop looking for a way to justify your being discourteous.... Open the door and hold it, lazy *ss.... DD ....... ....... .......
Go out of your way (even hurry)to get to and open that door....and if they don't say "thank you", so be it.
You have to consider if they'll want to run/jog to you because you're holding the door. If they have to increase their pace as a favor to you, so you're not stuck holding it while they move slowly, then you shouldn't hold the door.
I just push the door as hard as possible when I walk in a building. There's a little sweet spot that is formed afterwards for people behind me. Get in too fast and you run me over, and there will be a fight. No mercy for women and/or children. Get in too slow and the door will close on you and smack you in the face in which case now you have a broken nose. Its all about timing. On the other end, if I see someone opening a door for me and they are too far ahead, I slow my pace. Assert your 15 minutes of alpha male time. Slow your pace, don't say thank you and if there is another door ahead forget opening it for them. You are alpha male.
I held the door open for a women at a gas station near the Galleria a couple weeks ago. I held it open expecting her to grab or touch the door with her hand as she goes through. This chick did not do that... when I let go of the door, the door whipped back and hit her in the face... This has never happened to me before. When I hold the door open for anyone, woman or man, they usually grab the door as they go through.. I kinda sat there confused about what just happened before I apologized.. cool story, bra.
I'm a door holder opener. My father is to blame. He told me several times growing up that "a gentleman always holds the door open for a lady." Heck, he told me that before I knew what a gentleman was. Guilty as charged. Thanks, Dad!
If they tell you to "go ahead" and you want to then let go of the door. They, however, didn't ask you to hold it in the first place, so don't try to make them feel bad. In fact you seem to be sacrificing the extra good will that your extra patience would garner. Maybe we could start a separate thread about calling female co-workers "ma'am" or "sir."
I see it as a lot like a stock market, you have your short term investments and your long term investments. Short term investments are great initially, but probably wont do much for you in the long run (older people, just being nice to randoms). However, long term investments will reek the rewards for a long time after your initial investment (girls with big booties, girls with nice booties, girls with pretty faces, girls with huge racks, girls with nice racks, girls with a combination of the previous). You'll remember that booty/face/rack for many hours if not days to come! I kid, I kid. I was raised to always hold the door open for someone. My rule of thumb is, if you let go of the door, and it would have closed before they got there, than it's too far of a distance. If there's a reasonable chance they get to the door before it closes, you should hold it open. Obviously guys will be guys and hold open a door for a lady from like 50 feet away...
The other question regarding this issue is, should it be legal to punch somebody in the back of the head for not saying thank you for holding the door? Or at least a head gesture. Don't know why this annoys me but it does. If somebody doesn't say thank you inside my head is the reaction, "Well f*** you, I hope you slip and fall".