Felt like I said too much so I edited the post. Feel free to ask questions. Basically, was asking for opinions on me hating going over to see her family, and then went on a rampage of a rant about their culture lol.
Sorry man, can't help much, but probably like everyone else on this board I've been there too. I'm a white mutt and there were some "cultural" issues that came up on the side of my ex-gf's family, who were Mexican -- Mexican-Mexican. So, nothing to offer, but I know those feels bra. Hang in there and just power through family gatherings. ::EDIT:: Although, I had no issues with the homemade, authetic Mexican food!
Filipino, married a black woman. But her mom absolutely loves me. I think. Anyway, its reverse with me. Upon first meeting, my mom was not thrilled with her. She always wanted me to marry a pinay (Filipina). But she grew out of that eventually. Have you talked to you girl about this issue? I don't want to say it but if you cant talk to her about it then maybe there is really nothing there.
Sucks. When you marry her, you also marry her family. So this issue needs to be cleared out eventually if you're thinking she might be the one. As for the food issue. Eat before hand before you go to the party. Just say you ate at prior engagement. As for the culture. I can't help you there.
How American is your family and how American is theirs? Some cultures are more open and don't have as much tact as Americans do. That's why they have no problem discussing income or other things like that. They can be really blunt and it can come off as rude, but that's natural in their culture. They could also just want to make sure you can provide for your gf. And you should know that while Spanish is pretty universal, the dialects can vary greatly and it'll sound like a totally different language from one region to another. You should probably talk to your gf that these things make you uncomfortable. She can try to help you understand her culture better, and also shield you from her family.
Culture can influence your circumstance but it cannot change who you are, there are dicks in every culture call it the "archetype of dickdom".
if you don't enjoy the puppussies (pupusa) with some kolachampan then there is no hope for you. sometimes you have to suck it up, I ate squid for love, not terrence williams, an actual squid
her family will despise you forever. thats how salvadorians are against mexicans. central americans despise mexicans. don't know why though. if it gets bad, just get out of houston. visit the family during the holidays.
Very true about the cultural norms, e.g. topic of income. Americans seem to be more uptight about that topic than many other cultures. As for the language, you're right, it shouldn't be a surprise that there are differences. Especially for Tex-Mex spanish, it's been explained to me that other spanish speaking countries speak a more formal and proper form than what we hear/speak here. Oh, and pics so we know if she's worth the hassle.
How old are you? Does she depend on her parents financially? As an adult, I have always approached this issue by taking control and making HER family acclimate to me. Sometimes that has been easy because I'm cool peeps and so has the particular gf's family. Sometimes it has not been do easy but I basically treated get-togethers with that gf's family as a time for me to be an obnoxious, egotistical *******. That's really fun too but the gf has to be cool with it. My guess is that she is really family oriented and if that is the case cut your losses and find someone who has the total package.
this is very true - my Mother-inlaw was born and raised in Argentina. English is her 3rd language (after Spanish and German) and she sometimes had a hard time with Mexicans speaking spanish. As far as culture differences - you'll just have to get used to them. Learn from them and accept them. Its part of who she is. Always be pleasant to her family and they'll learn to be pleasant back. Good luck, but don't let her family influence your relationship with her.
My family is not that American so it's not so much of an issue where I can't completely understand their culture. I get the hispanic aspect of it
Thanks. I honestly do try to get myself involved with her family but it just seems like a hassle for me. I wish I could eat mexican food around them lol Edit: Sorry, I forgot about the multi-quote feature.
