I'm definitely wishing the best for you. I'm glad you know the truth, and as hard as it is, at least you can take whatever steps to deal with the actual real situation/s.
Not too dance on your grave or anything but just want to reiterate my previous post. Women are humans who are very good at lying to you and even better at lying to themselves. Thats why everything they say sounds so believable
Yeah, I definitely remembered your post (and a few others) when this truth came out. I don't think it was the sex exactly (she had plenty of times to "test" that out, and was coming back for more). She seemed happy about that. But I upset her the next morning, and she was definitely different ever since then. More or less the same thing, but likely some silly emotional detachment rather than sex (my "affection" wasn't very good, and she needs someone better...or something like that). Or maybe it was the sex. Doesn't really matter I suppose.
Just got my girlfriend addicted to FIFA 13 haha. I've been trying to think of a game she may like for a while now and I knew she grew up playing soccer, and still plays in indoor leagues. It worked better than I could of imagined.
Sorry to hear that buddy. I would suggest counseling for dealing with alcoholism. Addicts are known to be even bigger liars and may need a lot of focused and intense effort to break out of a well embedded routine. It's a disease and it affects the family members as much as the victim. Good luck!
Wow! Just a typical summer for RC Cola, right? I think you identified the good that came out of this, which is opening lines of communication with your family that you might not have known you needed. I suspect that given time, memories of the chick will fade and be forgotten, but the renewed family connections will end up being a huge positive thing for you. Good luck. -
May I suggest, in the strongest terms possible, NOT to play into her charade of 'just being friends' when you still feel anything for her. I don't care what any woman says, the fact of the matter is that an ex will use you for emotional support while draining you and leaving you with nothing but heartache. Go cold turkey, cut yourself off from her COMPLETELY. You're dreaming that you're leaving an opportunity for a future reconnect between the two of you, when I have no doubt that she's just using you for emotional support (female ego-stroking) while she's off f#cking some other dude - or at the very least, lining up other guys. Don't do it, women are coldly utilitarian like this toward men.
Yeah, already ahead of you. We actually just finished up several rounds of counseling (with chemical dependency/alcoholism specialist), both individual and family sessions. We're trying to get her back into "normal life," though with her showing commitments to going to regular meetings, dealing with stress, etc. We'll see how that all goes. Was actually recommended by my relationship counselor. (if you couldn't tell, I'm a big fan of counseling now...even when you "know" all the right things and are "OK," think it really helps). Yeah, I especially enjoyed the bond my sister and I have developed during these tough times. Really easy to talk about pretty much anything. I'm usually a pretty private person (especially about a lot of this stuff), though with this whole experience, I've really opened up to sharing this stuff to the people around me (or even BBS forums ). Feels good to do so, and I always love hearing other perspectives. Think it is better than keeping everything in my head. A year ago, I might not have shared a lot of that (special circumstances prompted me to begin sharing this with my sister), and honestly, I don't know how I would have taken things if I had kept this all bottled up.
Sorry to hear RC. But I am more sorry to hear about your mom. You'll find as you get older that girls will come and go but your family will always be there. Keep plugging on helping your mom to get help. This should be your primary focus now, IMO.
Well said...It has to be a perfect situation IMHO and like you said, both people have to want it, otherwise it won't work...I always try to remain friends but there are usually feelings in the way and then alcohol is introduced and then things get complicated...
