Three weeks ago I have been involved in a embarrassed love. One of my former colleagues, said that she loved me all the time and hoped to become my girlfriend. We worked together almost one year at a office. She is not good-looking and is not good in shape. I don¡¯t like her at all, but I made a mistake that I made love with her in two nights. It is difficult to control the sexuality for me. Now she want to marry me, which is rather boring me. I daren¡¯t say no to her because I am afraid to hurt her heart. I do hope to stop the relationship between her and me. What shall I do to deal with it?
Kill her. Uhh, I mean... Change your name and identity and move to another town. Or you could dosomething that she hates to piss her off. Like, if she hates a certain type of music, start listening to it while she's around, or simply ignore her.
Don't be any more of a dick to her than you already have been. Tell her you are not interested in her and that sleeping with her was a mistake. It is time to be a man and face the music. That might not be what you want to hear, but you probably aleadyt knew it was the right thing to do.
Uhhh, she's a maid. Better yet, tell your wife/gf/b****/whatever she is that Jennifer Lopez is the office slut and she is having your child.
Sorry you have to marry her. This is your responsibility. She loves you. Maybe you will love her one day.
. . . . You don't want to say no to her desires to marry you b/c you're afraid of hurting her? So what, you're willing to spend the rest of your life married to a woman you don't love or find physically attractive.... Yeah, that'll work. Go talk to her man. Tell her it was a mistake. But fix it and fix it fast, before she has more time to ponder the magnificent life she thinks you two will share for eternity.
Maybe you are right. I should be responsible for her. But the difficulty is that I cannot persuade me into loving her. I don't know how to face to her and to confess my guilty. It is really a tough mission for me.
What's the difficulty? I mean it should not be that difficult to at least have a feel for a girl who loves you.
Wow. I could not disagree any more with anyone on this BBS than I do with this statement. Someone could say bash the Oilers and I'd still disagree more with the quoted statement. (then again... )
Tell her you are a homosexual, and by sleeping with her, you were trying to "fix" yourself. Then tell her it didn't work. That always worked for me.
Dude, how could I be so stupid! It was right there in front of me. The chick you slept with is posting as NewGirl! RUN!!! RUN AWAY NOW!!!!
Just curious...Newgirl and wildhorse where do you live? In America or China? Either way...there is no reason you should marry this girl. You are not attracted to her and you made a mistake by having sex with her. There is no way you can avoid hurting her emotions at this point. However, if you continue on in this relationship you will only make things worse for the both of you. The best thing to do is end the relationship now and explain to her that it was a mistake having sex and that you only want to be friends. You do not have to be mean about it, but you have to make it clear that you do not want a relationship with her or else she will continue to be led on by you. If you decide to continue with the relationship in an attempt to avoid hurting her feelings and trying to fulfill some sense of responsibility to her then things will get worse because you will be with someone who you do not want to be with, someone who you have no feelings for, and will most likely not be able to be faithful to. Also, it will be worse for her because she will think that you have feelings for her and that you love her when in reality you do not. You will be living a lie if you try to have a relationship with her when you do not want one. A relationship takes two people...not one person. If one person's heart is not into the relationship then there is no relationship at all. What will happen is the person who is in love will continue to be hurt over and over again because they are continually being led on by the person who does not have feelings for them. So...after writing all that...my point is do not even consider marriage, end the relationship, and minimize contact with her so she is not led on by you anymore.
