Ok guys i'm reallly stuck on something here and need all you ladies men to help me Heres the situation Ok theres a girl my friend hooked me up with, we met at a party and had a good time. Nothing big, we made out danced the regular.. She told me to call her so i did.. The Following friday we went out and went to a dinner and a movie.. during the movie i wasnt sure if i should try anything so i didnt, but then she pulled the 1st move and then we went from there.. When i dropped her off she gave me a kiss goodnight and we been talking for about 2 weeks since then.. Now i dont even know why she talked to the same friend and said that she likes me but does not want a boyfriend, i dont know if it's too early she doesnt want a b/f or she just doesnt want one. But she said she wants to stay friends and talk still and go out on the weekends and chill..My friend warned me before anything that she is bad with relationships even though she hasnt had alot of b/f's.. She says she feels trapped.. So i ask you guys what to do? Have you been in a situation like this before? Should i keep talking to her and hopefully something happens Only problem is i dont want to get attached, so everyone throw your advice.. THANK YOU
Sounds like she wants to have fun and mess around and not be tied down (figuratively........she might very well want to be tied down literally). Sounds like the perfect girl. What's the problem?
I've had girls like this in the past, and the next thing i know they just turn around and go for another guy.. Im more trying to settle down with a girl....
I would say not to push it..if ya like her...keep going out and hanging till she decides that you are the one,or not. Either way, you get to have some fun..and if you are really lucky..you might have some *real* fun.. Don't be in such a hurry to tie yourself down..you are young..take advantage of that and enjoy yourself.
i know what you're all saying,, just like my friends say but like everyone has told me already to try and not get attached and thats the only real thing that worries me
tell her what you told us. if she says she still just wants to be "friends" then tell her ok and then shag.
My take? At age 17, you will be better off worrying about getting down than settling down. People change a lot, typically, up until 25 or so, at least. (Yes, everyone, there are notable and successful examples!) Either way, she does not sound like someone who wants a serious boyfriend at all. If you feel an irrepressible urge to be a serious boyfriend to somebody, you'll have to forget her. In fact, if that's what you want at age 17, you'll probably have to find a girl who has major issues regarding insecurity.
like "getting married, buying a house, and pumping out kids" settling down??? If this is the case, that girl aint the one.
17 yr olds make out with you and say "I don't really want a boyfriend, right now," because they want to do the nasty with you, but want an out in case you are nasty at it. If you're good, you're in for a few months, until you cave and say "I love you," or you run out of money. Sounds like you can score from here. More than once? is the only question.
Try just having fun for a month or two. If she still doesn't seem interested in "settling down", then you need to have a talk or move on. RM95's Girl didn't want to have a serious boyfriend either, she just wanted to have fun. So that's what we did...we ended up having so much fun that we've been together for over two years.
don't sweat the small stuff. take it a day at a time, keep dating her with out commitment then if something better comes along take the better of the two. No harm, no foul, afterall she was the one who didn't want a BF.
alright well i guess im gonna go with the idea of just talking to her longer... but now what to say to her tonight
