Do they belong to each other? Where do you define the limits? Ie - I'm asking you Houston Texas - why do you feel more comfortable in a 1v1 relationship as opposed to a 1v3 relationship.
speaking as someone who is dating multiple women at once after coming out of a monogamous relationship - one on one is much deeper. Unless you are getting into the mormon philosophy and you are talking sister wives. Generally speaking in america, young lad, the women disapprove of multiples. therefore you have to separate each and find a balance. I am finding myself to be much happier as a single man, not being tied down to one woman; however, i attribute that to the frustration at the end of the marriage. If you are asserting that marriage is a dying ritual - I strongly disagree. But your skinny jeans are too tight and you've got enough cologne sprayed on to knock out all logic that you may have ever had to reasonably debate the topic.
You got it backwards, if I'm in with 3 hot girls I'm coordinating/directing. Not too concerned with pleasing them.
It depends on the people involved. I disagree that it necessarily prevents deep or as deep relationships. I do not think that it is something that most people can handle though.
Well, if your point is that the only reason it can't work is because of people's attitudes, then yeah, you are probably right. But the thing is woman are wired to want only one mate, really. Since the sex drive is based on reproduction, it does them no good for their mate (and potential child's father) to be sleeping around with other women and potentially having THEIR kid(s). So to be able to find 3 women who are not hung up on jealousy and wanting to get in the other women's business seems like a pipe dream (see what I did there?). But I suppose it might could work if all 4 people involved were truly not bothered by it.
Women are wired to want one mate? There is a lot of controversy concerning this point in science.... Perhaps Ronny is one of 3 husbands.....
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Just speculating, given the dearth of information you provided, but I think we need a bit of clarification, Ronny. So are you asking us if it's OK to depart from a ménage à trois for a monagamous relationship with someone you love? Could I ask if you are leaving two guys and a chick, or two chicks and you? Is the one person you share a "mutual love" with a member of the threesome, or is it someone outside of the relationship? Those are just a few of the questions that popped into my head when I read your OP. I'm sure others can enlarge on them. And if I have the fundamental issue wrong, please accept my apologies in advance.
Stooby, Dooby, Doo, I'd like to go into excruciating detail. About what I want out of life, what others around me want out of life, and possibly what you want out of life. But my celebrity prevents this, so I'll keep it short and sweet. Life is intensity. You can ride that to excellence, or you can ride that to desperation. You can use it as a great source of strength and security, or you can use it as a form of weakness, insecurity and lethargy. Every time I have a conversation or make eye contact with someone, nothing else exists. It's just me and them in a state of abyss, liable to go anywhere depending on how we bounce off of each other. Now for the man with limitations, worries, fears, anxieties, etc, etc, that abyss isn't there. He only knows the structure that he's been taught in hopes of being a "productive member of society", catering to the whims of those around him. And he will look for a modest beauty who will relate to him in that aspect. But when it comes to the immodest beauties, those of heavenly proportions, societal rules don't apply. Sure, some of them are sweethearts, some of them are self-titled b****es, some of them are heartbreakers... but at their core, they know how valuable they are based on their demand. And this ego causes a slight distortion towards reality that the common man doesn't quite understand. It's these girls, and a few select others who have a great sense of love and understanding, who are open to the possibilities of something more. This is where the pizazz of a champion comes in. The power of someone who lives his life with intensity, and how much awe that puts a woman in. The second she's the focus of his attention, she's capable of feeling ecstasy that 5 years of "steady sailing" with the common man (in her opinion) won't provide. And that allure of the divine, that boost to the ego and self esteem is enough for her to be 33% of the gravy train. Why do you think the Rockets go around with slogans like "Be a part of something big?" Why do innocent high schoolers stress themselves silly to get into ivy league colleges? For the sense of grandiosity. To have that power behind you is a life changing motivation. Hey, I don't like it. But that's how they work. If they're not willing to go beyond a 1v1, that's fine. But a 1v3, where you have 4 very understanding and loving human beings, each accepting of their roles and dualities while interacting with each other on a high level, can also be a very beautiful thing. The girl's are comfortable with their alone time, their time with the guy, and the respect they receive from someone who's 33% far exceeds the 100% of every other guy they've met. This is far more dignified than "open relationships", "swinging" or "cheating", something that unfortunately classifies the majority of Western marriages. A joint family, can be a beautiful thing. It's naive to limit yourself to the whims of what traditions "approve" of and "disprove" of. At the end of the day, if you lead, women will follow. I'm not against compromise - in fact - I encourage it in personal relationships. But sometimes a map and directions need to be given to the fairer sex, and they'll be thankful for it at the end of the day. That's just me embracing my feminine side, a side of myself that I have completely mastered. And it allows us all to embrace the most important tool in making a 1v3 work - understanding. And Raven, don't turn this into chemistry. This is far too simple for that.
