I had an experience where I formed a great friendship with an extremely beautiful woman. We met in high school when she was a sophomore and I was a junior. She was a head turner and on more than one occasion I would witness guys get slapped by their significant others for gawking. (I am not exaggerating, this girl was a knockout.) I was totally in the friend zone with her and I was secretly desperately in love with her but never let my feelings be known. We remained like this for like two years. She started dating a star player on the football team and throughout this time I dated a few girls. Both of our significant others were pissed at the relationship that she and I had (I would have been too being in their position.) She would always tease me about how she loves me so much and I am like the perfect guy and she wishes her boyfriend was just like me and I would play it off and play the best friend role telling her that she should work things out with her boyfriend etc. Eventually they broke up and obviously I was the shoulder for her to cry on. Then one day she comes to me with the proposition..... She told me that she had been with this one guy for the past year and a half and was ready to totally have fun and did not want to even think about a boyfriend. However, she felt that she did not just want to sleep around and be a slut but needed to get over her boyfriend and the only person she felt close enough to want to do that with right now was me!!! The problem was that I was in a relationship at that time with another girl and I was facing a huge moral dilemma. I rejected her proposal the first time and felt extremely proud about myself. I had never cheated and did not want to start. This only fueled her because naturally being a super hot girl she was used to getting everything she wanted from men and not used to rejection. My fortitude lasted like a day because she came 2 days later wearing something extremely sexy. I totally caved and we ended up doing the dirty twice. The insanely crazy part about it was that I really did not enjoy at all. It was a combination of the guilt for cheating on my girlfriend mixed with the anticipation and ridiculously high expectations I had for this experience. On top of that it felt incredibly awkward for some reason almost like kissing my sister. After that night we did not talk for like a week when before we used to talk like every day. Eventually we ended up running into each other and we sat down and had a long talk about all of it and about how weird it was for both of us. After that we rekindled our friendship and it actually became stronger because we both had pushed passed the boundary and realized that there was nothing there worth pursuing. She is still one of my best friends to this day. I guess the moral of the story is that yes it is possible but in my case for it to succeed we had to experience everything and get the curiosity out of our heads in order to focus on a deep friendship. P.S. If anyone was wondering my girlfriend at the time who I cheated on and I broke up like a week after it happened. I ended up feeling too guilty and told her what happened. She cussed me out and told me that the slut and I deserved each other.
Of course. Surprised that so many of you guys don't have at least 1 female friend you aren't attracted to but get along great with. That's weird.
Good story. I'd like to add that there are some guys here who take it as just common knowledge that guys and gals can't be just friends. Others take it as just the opposite. Perhaps we're not all wired exactly the same. I mean......maybe it is a maturity thing (how you deal with sexual urges)......but maybe some men just have stronger urges. Just saying........
Ok, story time. Back in college at SWT, I was in Sigma Chi fraternity, we had this little sister who was smoking hot. Just a girl that everyone wanted, but no one could date, she was committed to some guy back in her home town. Well, I befriended her - obviously...lol....and we used to go out and party and I would talk with her about the girls I was seeing and hear her problems with being away from home etc. I was a local bartender, and having control of the liquor was incredibly helpful in getting laid - it was an awesome time, pre -aids awareness, and 19 to drink, lord...it was fun.... Ooops, back on story, so I am seeing a couple of different girls and tending bar, and basically partying my ass off (why else do you go to SWT?)..... And one night I was off work and hanging with my roomates making steaks etc....when I get a call from her, and we start chatting, and she just says... " I have chocoloate syrup, whip cream and strawberries, do you want to come over?" I was like WHAT?....well my car was in the shop, so I begged my roomate to give my his motorcycle, and hoped on and went over there for an icredible night of bliss......it was great fun. However, it ruined our friendship, we would still hook up for a few weeks, but we never got back to being all that close - I honestly think it would have been better to just pass on the experience.... **** THAT...it was completely worth it, I have enough friends....lol DD
Now the thread has devolved into an online Penthouse Forum thread? I never thought anything like this could happen to me, but......
Hell no they can't be friends. Wait I take that back.... There's only one way, if she's not attractive and you don't want to bang her then sure you can be friends. But like Jontro said it would get annoying at times.
It's possible but I cant do it. If she isn't my girl, if she isn't giving me p***y or if I'm not trying to get with her, then I have no reason to keep talking to her.
Moral of the story is you don't post this and not include pics. Especially if you made us read through all that.
if there is no attraction, yes! my best friend is a lady. she does play for the other team. so theory still stands..if there is no attraction, yes.
ugly girls and guys can be friends eventually you're going to want to do your hot friends. i have many personal stories, but for the most part i've kept my feelings/it in my pants. in college i turned 21 before most of my friends, so i went out with a group of girls that were older than me. like 4 hotties and me would go out all the time, eventually i wanted to do 2 of them lol one of them i was just too close to and as hot as she was i just couldn't risk the friendship the other i made the mistake of drunkendly admitting my feelings/hooking up w her on my 21st bday (not my fault, the girl slept with me in a thong and braw, did she not expect it?) so things were a little awkward after that. i have a history of befriending hotties and being stuck in the friend zone. i am an actual friend to them, i don't hit on them ever, so they assume i'm not interested in them. but really i want to do them with all my heart... truth anyways, it can be done, but it's rare
This is the reason why I tell my wife that there is no way she should have guy friends no matter how innocent they seem.
Yup. Like Chris Rock said, for women platonic guy friends are d*cks in a glass case... in case of emergency break glass. Cause you never know. <iframe width="420" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/zywIR_ZFLts" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>
When I was married, that sums up why I had problems with the fact that almost every one of my wife's friends was a guy. I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm a jealous guy (honestly, which guy isn't though?) but I didn't like several of the relationships she had. Stuff like this goes right over any and every girl's head. If you're an attractive girl, there is no doubt in my mind any guy who talks to you on an occasional basis, no matter your relationship, would have you cheat on your guy in a second.
I am friends with a few that are dating/married to some of my good friends since you see them so much anyways you might as well be and unless your a crappy friend you have a shield up saying don't do anything stupid. So you can actually talk with them on a friendship level. But of course if they breakup for whatever reason obviously that friendship ends with it... Other than I dont really care to and I dont think it's possible...
All heads look alike... Anyway, I wonder if also it has to do with the girl's relationship status. It has seemed like I've had a lot of guy friends when not in a relationship, the number has dropped off considerably when I've had a boyfriend, and now that I'm married it's down to about none, except for friends I know through my husband. Otherwise, seems like everyone who talks to me and keeps up with me to any great extent is female. Maybe it just feels wrong to stay friends, whether attracted or not?
I think it feels wrong if you think there's even a small chance of something happening. Feels like a threat to the relationship. The few guys friends you keep are the ones permanently in the friends zone. For example, I had an ex as a FB friend ( i know sounds like a bad idea, but we actually got along) and when she got married and it came time to "clean up" her friends list, she deleted me and not another ex she also was friends with, despite the fact that i knew her better and longer than he did. The difference? I'm still single, he's happily married with children (safe friend).
