Oh, Oh...Now What?? (Update on my Woman Situation) - Need Advice

Manny,

I have to say that reading this thread I've had quite a few more laughs than in any movie I've seen in the last ten years. Some of the advice (b-bob you rock) really needs to be preserved in a time capsule or something! Some funny ****.

But the truth is this...

She is already his if he wants her. SO you have two options as I see it depending on what kind of guy your are:

1. You are the 'fall in love with every woman I meet type guy' in which case you are already ****ed so don't worry about advice 'cause you are already ****ed anyway.

OR

2. You can continue to see this girl, being very careful to remind yourself over and over that there is a weird three person dynamic going on, and you are just going to continue cause you enjoy 'being with/talking to/uh, other things hopefully' with her. If you get two days or two weeks or two months, that's cool since if you weren't super desperate anyway you wouldn't even have started this thread. In the meantime, enjoy and try not to be too disappointed when you chooses the other guy even though he's a schmuck.

I suggest #2. 'Cause with #1...not to be repetitive but you are ****ed anyway.

 

edit: reconsidered there...

 

Don't put too much effort into this anymore.

If she comes back, fine, but she has more or less told you that she likes the other guy more than you, so if you start trying harder, you will look like a fool.

 

Manny can be a C-O-O-L R-I-D-E-R.

 

Manny,

I think you ought to play it cool and keep it fun and positive. That's my dating advice, generally. Don't worry about the other guy. You are not at the stage where it even matters if things don't work out between you. If you like her and she continues to show interest what is the harm in dating? The key, Manny, is to deliver the goods when it matters. Call this Operation Dehydration. Know what I'm saying? This is the area where you should be as serious as a heart attack. You've got to focus on your craft. If you make her violently spasm with ecstacy (use whatever you got, holmes) and emit high pitched wailing (or some variation of all of this) she's gonna forget the other guy.



Actually, Manny, just be yourself and you'll be alright. With your flawless taste in music you deserve a good woman.

 

Oh, I just thought of something else.

ON NO ACCOUNT BE THE GO-TO GUY.

As in: don't be the friendly guy she talks to about her problems with the other guy. If she starts doing that cut off the conversation politely but firmly. You are not going to get anywhere by being the surrogate best girlfriend.

I like B-Bob's solution best, though.

 

"That's right, Manny. Give her a one-way ride on the love bus to Vegas."

 

I guess I still have a late '60's/early '70's mindset. Be her friend. Take her out to a pretty outdoors spot on a nice day and walk around. Sit under a tree on the grass and kick back and relax. Lay back and enjoy the serenity. Stop talking so much. And kiss her. If the mood strikes the two of you after that then let nature take it's course. I don't get all the angst about whether or not to have a physical relationship.

I was "the other guy who appeared out of nowhere" when I met my wife. In four months we were living together. We got married four years later.

Don't worry about the other guy... just see if the two of you hit it off. Don't let yourself be used. And just be Manny.

 

Be glad, she's being honest with you. Maybe she was 'testing' you. My wife gave me the whole, 'don't date co-workers' story, yet persistance and charm won her over.

Be patient and honest...

 

Whatever you do, don't get attached to this girl. Do not show any weakness in front of her, or she'll eat your lunch. Do NOT call her every night. At the very least, take turns calling each other.

Make sure you start seeing other people. Once she sees that she's got some competition then maybe she'll make a decision. One way or another, she has to choose. This way, if she chooses the other douchebag, you'll have something to fall back on. However, don't stop seeing her until you know you can get p***y somewhere else.

Knowing chicks, the more you jock her the more she'll be turned off. There's nothing wrong with you playing a little hard to get. If she digs you, she'll come to you. Trust me. Even though I'm only 22, I know that if a chick wants you, she'll do what it takes.

 

Ma? Wha? Bler?

Beyond comprehension. Give that girl some cunnilingus, stat! *Then* we'll see who wins this competition!

(Yeah, yeah, Christian principles, whatever. All I'm saying is she's going to dry up soon if she's not careful. )

 

whatever you do, don't tell her about any contests you may currently be participating in.

 

Okay dimsie, you made me spit tea all over my poor little iBook with that comment. If I ever make it down to NZ, you owe me a drink.

 

So what's the latest Manny? I don't know how I let myself get drug into this soap opera! Although with the lack of sex and scandals (in Manny's like) I dare say this is a somewhat entertaining thread. (Thanks dimsie and B-Bob)

B

 

Ummm...I can tell you that that does in fact work. I won't tell you how I know.

 

Sorry. Drink debt duly acknowledged.

 

Manny, I thought you were a man of your word! It's been two days and no update! What happened that night?

B

 

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