The fact that you "had" to say them shows weakness on your part.... it shows you have no control of your emotions, you are hurt more than she is and last it validates to her that she was right to break up with you.
<iframe width="420" height="345" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/3DOvq8FsiUE" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> Lots of jokes but some good points too.
IMO, the only thing that will heal your heart up is time, and it'll take a while. Sucks, I know. You can spend that time sleeping around, drinking, exercising, or praying. It doesn't matter, really. Anything to distract you while you recover emotionally. Just don't do anything too self-destructive. You're not getting her back, you're not going to be close friends again. She's right. You need to leave her alone and move on. Do your best to force yourself not to wallow. That means no FB stalking. Sorry for your situation btw. Been there too, minus the whole "messaging her until she cut off all possible paths of communication with me" thing. I mean, seriously dude?!
She found someone else. Sounds harsh but most likely true. They say time heals and I found that to be true, but I know right now in the moment you don't wanna hear about giving it time because its too hard. If you really wanna get over her you gotta delete her from your phone, or anything else you have that you can contact her or anything that reminds you of her. It was kinda good she deleted you from Facebook because trust me, you'd just be stalking her anyway. It's tough, but you'll be ok bro. Just remember you see her for the true person she is now: a heartbreaker. I hate b****es. Ugh.
Time wounds all heals. Seriously though. I've been in break ups (or worse unrequited feelings) that felt like my guts were literally being ripped out. It sucked...I survived and you know what...now that I look back on it I am so damn happy I didn't end up with them. One day, I guarantee you think the same thing about this one. Think about that day and every day it gets a little better.
I seen a baby cry then seconds later she laughed... the beauty of life, the pain never lasts. Cole World
Btw, how are you guys so sure she's not my one? Does the one never break your heart like this at any point of a relationship?
you live and learn kid....since she is your first gf, there will be plenty more...its not the end of the world....plenty of hot gurls out there....since she is your first gf, im guessing u are young.....try your best to focus and school and get a good job....Women will come....some better, some worst...but u learn from them....u probably feel like ****....everyone goes through it......u gonna look back 5 yrs from now and just laugh... Go meet new ppl...party...hang out with friends and stay busy...and yes go get laid....it does help...maybe not 100% painfree, but it will make u feel 10% better....shack with few more girls and u will feel another 20-30% better.....go on 4-6 months since u seem like u are deeply in love and ull be fine..... worst things u can do is sit around and do nothing but think of ur ex...cuz then u will start texting, stalking on facebook, and twitter......then u look pathetic.... u probably wont listen to most of our advice as your emotions will take over....but most ppl here are rite with the advice they have given u....this is life bro....part of growing up....
There is no such thing as "the one". Someone will come on here after this and talk about their significant other and how they have been together for X years and are still happy and blah blah blah, but the fact is there are 6+ billion people in the world, and quite a few of them are going to be adequate for those purposes. She could have met the requirements of a successful long term partner, except you have already found out that she did not. She cheated on you and broke up with you, if I am following your story correctly. If you only got a single person that was "the one" and she cheated on you and broke up with you, then "the one" doesn't really seem like something worth having, does it? Eventually you will settle for just "one" or if you are smart you won't and will realize that you are "the one" that will make you happy, and your interactions with the rest of the world can simply play off of that.
Because if she really is "the one" (whatever that means) and cheats on you, you're better off single. Relationships are nice, but you really shouldn't be living your life in pursuit of them, or in this case, her.
Even if she didnt cheat...the fact that there is a seed of doubt shows that you need something different.
Make sure you never promise her that you will always be friends even after you break up when you start going out. That is the worse thing you can do.
She's not the one because she doesn't even want to talk to you. You have a lot to learn in the love depo and it sounds like you're picking the hard way.
