OK, here's my story... Ever since I've graduated from college, I've changed. I admit it. I am no longer the beer guzzling, century club playing, bar hopping, club going man that I was in college. I've lost interest in that type of activity. I find more pleasure staying home by myself and watching a sporting event on TV. Now I wouldn't say I'm antisocial, but I prefer being alone on most nights and reading, surfing the web, or watching sports. I was never like this, its just a transition that has happened to me over the past 2 years. The situation worsened when I was laid off. I have no desire to leave my apartment anymore. I just find no pleasure in doing social things anymore... maybe b/c I've been isolated for so long? Anyways, I present my tale b/c my little sister (21 and in grad school) called me again to go out drinking with her and her friends. She has invited me out every friday and saturday night to go drinking, but i've never accepted an invitation. She had to force me to go to a bar with my friends and hers to celebrate my birthday back in January. So today she called and I just laughted. I said, "you know what my answer is." and she goes off... she's like "you're such a loser now. what happened to you? you used to be the biggest party animal I had ever heard of!" (when i was in college, she was in high school and for fear of being narc-ed out to my parents, i never told her my wild tales... but apparently word got back to her from friends of friends of friends...) now that i'm in college and old enough to drink you won't even hang out with me! are you ashamed of me?" i told her how i'm not that same guy anymore and prefer to be alone now. she goes nuts and says "you're worrying me. you know this is how those trenchcoat mafia guys got started!" i just blew it off and told her how dumb she was. so seriously, am I the only one? Am i the only guy who partied WAY too much in college and prefers to relax at home in front of a ball game? i sure hope not!
The last time you finished boning some hot chick, did you look in the mirror and ask, "What the hell was SHE thinking about?" That's where it all begins...
Everything in moderation, my man. Partying all the time - bad. Becoming a shut in - equally bad. I know where you're coming from, I kinda went into hibernation for a while back in the day, just didn't feel like going out. Social interaction is good, you don't necessarily have to get drunk if you go out. Have a couple of beers & enjoy the conversation, I'm sure your sis has some cute grad school friends, right? (If not, there's also sports on tv at the bars ). I don't drink nearly as much as I did in my early 20's, but it's still fun to go throw some darts or whatever & have a few beers. Just my .02.
dont listen to Buck...he can't even make a layup look at it his way...you are unemployed...u dont have extra money to be spending on beer. now if your sister and her firends are going to be buying you all the drinks...then yes you are messed up in the head and need to go out...
ahh, thank you. i made that exact point to her! she even went off on my car. she wanted to borrow it for the night, but I refused. she was like "you have a nice convertible just being wasted on this gorgeous day." i told her straight up i don't want to put gas or mileage into the car when i haven't worked all year! if something happened to the car, who would have to pay for it? the broke grad student or her older brother? i hadn't thought about it, but if my drinks were purchased for me, i'm pretty positive i would go out. well, then again maybe not. its pretty demasculating (is that a word?) to have a woman buy me drinks, in my opinion... maybe its chauvinistic and stupid, but i wouldn't feel comfortable. i think i might have an inferiority complex b/c i can't afford to go out!
