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Relationship Question......If you found out girlfriend had a mental disorder....

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by eddiewinslow, Jul 20, 2011.

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  1. eddiewinslow

    eddiewinslow Member

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    So Ive been seeing this girl for a little while and I've come to a crossroads, she admits she admitted she is a pathalogical liar after I confronted her about a big lie and she broke down and asked me to help her get help. She said nobody has ever really cared about her and she doesnt really have many friends and she's lied uncontrollably since she was a kid. I know what it's like to grow up in a broken home so I can see her pain. Is this really something from birth? The fact she admits there's a problem and wants help is a big plus for me as Im not one to run from a challenge.....but the big question is can a mental disorder like this be helped? I really care about her even though it hasn't been a year and think she may be the one. We all have issues and Im not one to judge and if it's possible to fix an issue like this with a psychologist then I want to help her and be by her side. What do you all think?
     
    #1 eddiewinslow, Jul 20, 2011
  2. Royals Ego

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    get the F away from her
     
    #2 Royals Ego, Jul 20, 2011
  3. Xsatyr

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    She probably lied and made the whole thing up.

    Okay joking aside that is serious issue and I would not stay with a girl like that. I would do everything I could to help her and remain friends but you can't trust your heart to someone in that condition.
     
    #3 Xsatyr, Jul 20, 2011
  4. eddiewinslow

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    so forgiving is not an option and helping her heal? I mean I really love this girl
     
    #4 eddiewinslow, Jul 20, 2011
  5. justtxyank

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    How old are you? Hold old is she?
     
    #5 justtxyank, Jul 20, 2011
  6. ima_drummer2k

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    Seriously, can we just paste this in every relationship thread? It ALWAYS applies.

    I would also add getting a vasectomy.
     
    #6 ima_drummer2k, Jul 20, 2011
  7. Mae

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    A pathological liar is a liar. I bet she's lying about no one trying to help her. They tend to suck people into their world and then spout lies until those people get out. They probably cared at some point.

    I recently cut a guy friend out of my life. He was a pathological liar and the lies just kept getting worse. They do not get better.
     
    #7 Mae, Jul 20, 2011
  8. roflmcwaffles

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    This.

    Man it would be nice to change her, but you are fighting a long uphill battle.

    If you want to try to stick it out, go for it because no one knows how much you can handle besides yourself, but just be ready for a long road to recovery.
     
    #8 roflmcwaffles, Jul 20, 2011
  9. bobrek

    bobrek Politics belong in the D & D

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    Of course that's an option. You are the only one who knows the entire situation and your true feelings.
     
    #9 bobrek, Jul 20, 2011
  10. mylilpony

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    if she has some t***, you must acquit(s?)
     
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  11. Joshfast

    Joshfast "We're all gonna die" - Billy Sole
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    Didn't you learn anything from Casey Anthony?
     
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  12. eddiewinslow

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    she lies but she wants to go to therapy and have me go with her....doesnt that mean shes really willing to change....shes asking me to help her out, wouldnt it be wrong to deny her help then
     
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    People can change. You can't change them.
     
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    What was her "big lie?" Come on. Give us the whole story.
     
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  16. Mae

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    Help her out, but don't be overly optimistic.
     
    #16 Mae, Jul 20, 2011
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    Mathloom Shameless Optimist

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    Nevermind. Just read that she's willing to seek pro help.
     
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    eddiewinslow,

    Make her arrange everything. Say, "make an appointment and tell me when and where to show up." but say it nicer, if you want. Like, "we'll go out for dinner after." Use that as a test. Hell, if it works, therapy night could become v e r y fun. why not be optimistic.
     
    #18 heypartner, Jul 20, 2011
  19. DonkeyMagic

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    Girlfriend has a mental disorder...that's kinf od redundant.

    all women have a mental disorder...it's called being a woman.

    But, that's a tough one. I would imagine most of you relationship with this girl is based on a lie. It's best to cut bait dude.
     
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  20. Xerobull

    Xerobull ...and I'm all out of bubblegum

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    Thread title should have 'WHEN' instead of 'IF'

    Weigh the pros and cons. Adjust accordingly.
     
    #20 Xerobull, Jul 20, 2011
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