[I always think the worst of people] How to be positive?

Ahh shucks, man, I was just joshin'. Except about the highschool ass part.

Now im going to wataburger for a # 5.

 

Here's what you do:

1. Stop ****ing whining. Stop dramatizing your issues. Turning your life into a soap opera is just a common way to avoid dealing with your issues.
2. Here's the trick with "emotional abuse" and such: Whoever did it isn't going to fix it. No one's gonna show up one day and say "Gee, sorry" and wave a magic wand and make your problems go away. These are your problems now, and you are responsible for them.
3. "Giving style” to one’s character - a great and rare art! It is exercised by those who see all the strengths and weaknesses of their own natures and then comprehend them in an artistic plan until everything appears as art and reason and even weakness delights the eye."
— Friedrich Nietzsche

 

Dating Site?

Got to agree with RoxSqaud...

Couldn't hurt to try...

Something is better than nothing! This is a lot more than nothing :grin:

Find who you are, and having someone there to help you can make it a lot easier. Good luck.

Pugs

 

The less friends the better your life will be. Keep your circle tight

 

Stop thinking about LerBon. It's helped me.

 

Read a book. I recommended Psycho Cybernetics, its helped me a lot.

 

In life, there will always be haters. There will always be people who tear you down, who think you are worthless, who have nothing good to say about you, who only know how to blame you for everything. Character is not a product of what other people have done to you or said to you. Character is a product of how you respond in those situations.

Really - try saying (aloud) positive things when you get negative thoughts. Do it constantly. The spoken word is the most powerful way to fight the battles of the mind. And don't let other people define who you are. They don't know you. It will always feel natural to lash out, to fight back, to take the low road, beat yourself up and beat others up. It takes effort to take the high road, respond with love and meekness. It may not be easy, but if you make a conscious effort to start changing your responses, over time you will start to see a big change in the way you feel about yourself.

 

To ClutchCity3:

Here’s my take on the problem:

Cliché, but it is the truth: It’s good that you decided to get help, important first step. My biggest advice is know that you can overcome it with effort and dedication, most people who have suffered from depression believed they were beyond repair, if you feel this way know that this is merely a symptom.

-There are many ways to tackle depression, and it’s strange that you could consider it just a chemical imbalance in your brain; medication helps a lot, but is not the only way.

-You’ve said you don’t want to go to doctors but I will recommend it if you can afford it or go for cheap, most of them chose their profession out of love for it, they truly desire to help you. You can look at it as a business transaction, they get their money, and you get their viable help.

-My utmost recommendation is this book: http://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Therapy-Revised-Updated/dp/0380810336
It is not mumbo-jumbo or psycho-babble, this is a self-help book supported and used by lots of professionals world-wide and with independent, reputable studies backing up its great results. If you refuse to go to a professional think of this as your therapy in your own terms. It is based in cognitive therapy which basically shows you how irrational and incoherent our thinking gets while depressed and shows you how to debunk them. If you want to know where to get a free pdf copy, p.m. me and I’ll provide you a link.

Try it and know that with whichever solution you choose it won’t come instantly, overcoming it is a process. However, with this book you will start feeling better from its beginning.