Leave it alone Bro, you're crossing the line into becoming a Psycho. Move on, she has and it appears you can't deal with it. You seem rather young, plenty of chicks to be found HOWEVER when a girl says don't look at her private information...DON'T LOOK AT HER PRIVATE INFORMATION.
Man some of this advice seems kind of harsh. She may be willing to "try" with you cause, let's face it, she has nowhere to go. I'm just saying, be careful about getting played. I promise you, the sooner you move on, the better. Let her go live with kissy skype guy.
Or he could just take the next step and put a GPS tracking device in her shoe and a wiretap in her belt. Then he could REALLY be sure how she felt.
WHOA. I think you're out of a girlfriend, she will only go back to you for what EITHER OF YOU selfishly want, and you're also out a friend. You made serious mistakes a gentleman wouldn't do with a lady. Here is why: It seems from this that you want to stay single. Do you just want the physical privileges of having a girlfriend only, but don't want to talk?? Seems unfair to her. She has a right to avoid you. Did you apologize or at least let her know you knew this was wrong about this? I also don't understand why you say "well 1 thing led to another." WHAT 1 thing led to this? Did you two have a big fight that forced you to hurt her feelings? Sounds like you made a mistake that started the snowball effect. What did you mean here? She LIVES with you?!?!? After that point, it seemed like she sought refuge in a guy who could give her what you couldn't. What happened on SKYPE or on the computer was a result of you just "wanting to be single again" and "hurting her feelings", like you stated. You also know that you've broken the trust you had in her, but she also isn't being truthful to you and I am afraid it's a loss to both of you, sir. Too bad you will continue to see her and that will remind you of your mistakes, the ones from which I hope you will learn. Also, may I interest you in CAPITAL LETTERS at least at the beginning of your sentences? It makes a story a bit more legible, because our minds help us determine where a sentence starts, so we know it's another thought. Please use them accordingly so we can also help you.
she hasn't committed to the other guy, so she's still hanging onto you as a safety net. you're giving her the validation she wants without being attached to you.
You can move on and see other people.......without all that drama. She has moved on.....you need to as well. BTW - you kick her out and there is no chance you will ever be toghether and it will probably force her further into the arms of someone else. Move on.....and learn from it. DD
By the looks of it this "relationship" seems to be a friends with benefits at the most. I always thought going through other peoples convos is a little extreme, let alone a little desperate. It's apparent she is or has moved on, seems that she tells you that she wants to work out things but maybe it's just to keep you at bay about letting her stay at your house. Don't let her guilt trip you into letting her stay, if she does she better be paying some sort of rent. Stop stressing yourself out, there are boat loads of women out there. Just don't go poking your nose where it don't belong never ends in a good manner most people despise invasion of privacy.
This! Wtf dude, don't let her live with you and your family...that might be one reason why she's 'letting' you hang on, she's needs a roof over her head. But I understand why it might be hard for you...5 years is a long time...hell some people meet, marry, have children, and divorce in that time period. Regardless of the advice you see here, you have to make up your own mind...but always try to make a decision based on imadrummer's advice. <object width="480" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/g2jAwiq6YsE?fs=1&hl=en_US"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/g2jAwiq6YsE?fs=1&hl=en_US" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object>
Actually, I think the thread starter is the BBS poster "McGrady" using a different handle. Seriously, a couple of things: 1) If you have to ask yourself stuff like "Should I check her email" or "Should I check her laptop", then you don't have a chance of making this thing work. 2) I have said this before and will keep saying it - the person that cares the least has the most power in the relationship. 3) Most girls that are under the age of 25 are SEVERELY flighty. They'll like one guy one week and then move on to someone else the next week. 4) She is still giving you hope because she obviously doesn't want to be kicked out of your parents' place. Some girls will lead guys on when they have no interest in them simply because that guy can give them something they want or need (such as shelter in this case). Count me as one of the many to tell you to move on with your life and look for someone else.
I'm more in this line of thinking. The OP's behavior during her absence has made her insecure in the relationship. She probably worries that he was fooling around on the side while she was away. So, she's now entertaining other suitors because she doesn't know where she really stands; the OP could have prevented it by talking on the phone more. So, I don't think the relationship is dead, but it's in a bad spot. You need to move in one direction or the other. Either kill it and move on, or do something to assure her that you are committed (and have been) to the relationship. It's risky of course, because killing it will be painful and ugly, and trying to nurture it requires exposing yourself to possible rejection. But staying put in this limbo isn't healthy for anyone, and the relationship will die a slow torturous death (unless/until she finds the courage to do what needs to be done).
Man charged with felony for reading his wife's e-mail to track an affair Move on and stop committing felonies.
She is hanging on emotionally because she needs a place to live. People are motivated by survival first and ego second and other reasons after that. But, being young you don't have to have commitment. You might just enjoy what you have, her company when she is home, the chance it will become more stable over time. You just have to man up to let her be her and you be you. Don't be a chump, but don't be a dick pull the rug out from under her for the sake of your ego. Chill, enjoy but understand the most likely outcome; she will move on eventually.
Advice: 1-a. Go to a busy public place that people your age frequent. 1-b. Look around. 1-c. Take note of the copious amounts of attractive females. 2. READ THIS 3-a. Stop being a p***y. 3-b. Get laid.
Haha yes this. I know someone going through the exact same situation you are - they are young and in college and I'm guessing you are too. Move on, for your own sake, move on.
Easy, she's hedging her bets...in her mind you'll always be there b/c you love her...w/ freedom, she now has the opportunity to see how things are outside of you and if they don't work out, she thinks you'll be there, which it sounds like you will...I've been through this and its tough, but overall, if you love her, you'll find a way..HOwever, if she's just using you for your place...that totally sux and u should kick her arse to the curb...
Those are easily detected. Drug her out for a day and get a shady dentist to plant a listening bug in her right molar.
