Relationship Issues (Jealousy) Please Help Clutchfans

Pilot Fired for Kissing Flight Attendant in Cockpit

 

Indian?

well, i'm sure this happens a lot...

 

Didn't read all the posts, but here's my take...

I knew I would marry the woman I ended up marrying when I realized I didn't have to be with her, but I chose to be with her and it was liberating in many ways.

Those other relationships, where there's an imbalance... you're tied up in knots or she's too damn clingy... I look back on those and thank the heavens that I never walked down the aisle because they would have all ended disastrously.

Mrs. rimrocker just felt right... all things in balance. (Of course, I didn't marry until I was 32.)

 

Exactly - as I said before, the person that shows the least amount of interest has the most power. However, if you can get it to be 50-50 in terms of interest AND power than these are the relationships that have the best chance of lasting. A relationship that is 90-10 or even 75-25 isn't going to make it. 55-45 and maybe even 60-40 can make it but anything more than that, it is not going to work.

 

U should take the advice of 95% of what is being discussed in this thread.....other 5% thinks u're a pu$$y, which u are.....u sound pretty pathetic, but everyone goes through a similiar stage early in their life one way or another....u WILL LOSE her..pretty much a done deal...bc u cant trust her and u are not gonna start bc u have this feeling in ur gut telling u not to trust her.....you will eventually learn, but probably not with this girl......

one day u gonna look back and laugh when u are older of how foolish u are.....until then...hit it as much as u can bc she GOING TO leaves u.....WAKE UP MAN....plenty of fine a$$ out there.....continue building your HIT list is my best advice for a 22 yr old.....girls hate insecure weak men....u pretending not to be weak at this point of your life is just a lie to yourself.....

oh yea knocking her up will be a dumb move as u will still be insecure and she will end up leaving u either way, but then someone else will be slapping your kid around....

no hope guys...he just need to grow out of it.....

 

Here is some advice, don't post on clutchfans if your looking for actual dating advice, unless you want to read 15 sarcastic post before you read a genuine one.

I have to agree if this is an on going issue you will lose her, you probably are not wrong to be jealous and she's given you some sort of reason to be jealous that you may not be sharing with us.

My current gf, i trust her 100%, i get jealous here and there but nothing that is on going, it last like a few hours than i'm over it because she doesn't give me much reason to be jealous. On the other hand, i had an ex who i was insecure with and denied it thinking i was just being paranoid. I had a gut feeling something was wrong though and just about a week later she left me without even saying goodbye.

I think you should trust your instincts!

 

Just like T-mac to panic before a game even starts, lol.
In the end though all you can say is "I tried man....I tried."

 

Talk to her and tell her what you are telling us. Give her the trust that she deserves and that goes the same with you. By reading your post, it seems that your jealousy is a bit too much but it is obvious that you really love her. Communication is the key.

Happy Holidays to you and your gal

 

I know this pain. Why do lock yourself up in these chains? No one can change your life except for you. Don't ever let anyone step all over you. Just open your heart and your mind. Is it really fair to feel this way inside?

Some day somebody's gonna make you want to turn around and say goodbye. Until then, are you going to let them hold you down and make you cry?

Don't you know? Don't you know things can change? Things'll go your way if you hold on for one more day. Can you hold on for one more day? Things'll go your way.

Hold on for one more day.

 

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(spoken)
Girl you know we belong together
I have no time for you to be playing
With my heart like this
You’ll be mine forever baby, you just see

(verse)
We belong together
And you know that I’m right
Why do you play with my head,
Why do you play with my mind?

Said we’d be forever
Said it’d never die
How could you love me and leave me
And never say good-bye?

Girl I can’t sleep at night without holding you tight
Girl, each time I try I just break down and cry
Pain in my head oh I’d rather be dead
Spinnin’ around and around


Chorus:
Although we’ve come to the end of the road
Still I can’t let you go
It’s unnatural, you belong to me, I belong to you
Come to the end of the road
Still I can’t let you go
It’s unnatural, you belong to me, I belong to you


Girl, I know you really love me,
You just don’t realize
You’ve never been there before
It’s only your first time

Maybe I’ll forgive you, hmm
Maybe you’ll try
We should be happy together
Forever, you and I

Girl, you love me again like you loved me before
This time I want you to love me much more
This time instead just come to my bed
And baby just don’t let me, don’t let me down


Chorus


(spoken)
Girl I’m here for you
All those times of night when you just hurt me
And just run out with that other fella
Baby I knew about it, I just didn’t care
You just don’t understand how much I love you do you?
I’m here for you

I’m not out to go out and cheat on you all night
Just like you did baby but that’s all right
Hey, I love you anyway
And I’m still gonna be here for you ’till my dying day baby
Right now, I’m just in so much pain baby
Coz you just won’t come back to me
Will you? just come back to me

(lonely)
Yes baby my heart is lonely
(lonely)
My heart hurts baby
(lonely)
Yes I feel pain too
Baby please

This time instead just come to my bed
And baby just don’t let me go


Chorus


Chorus (a cappella)

 

Has he posted lately? I am worried he did something stupid.

 

Like what? Hijack a plane so she'll only love him?

 

Long thread, not going to backread, but:

If you honest to god trust her and your relationship, then you aren't going to get consumed thinking about her being with another guy.

It comes down to confidence in yourself and in your relationship.

If you wig out and hold onto her with white knuckles....it's going to kill the relationship. If she cheats/leaves you for another guy.....she was never the right one for you to begin with.

If you are insecure about your own worth and are worried that girls are going to leave you because they're exposed to other guys out there, you'll never be able to have a strong relationship with her or anyone else.

 

c'mon man , it's Mcgrady after all...... shows up when he wants to

 

LOL, he just posted 2 and a half hours before your post. ima took what he said and inserted the brilliant idea of posting lyrics to "Hold On" by Wilson Phillips. That inspired me to post lyrics to a different song (one that I think fits McGrady's situation). But then again, it has been 3 hours since he has posted so it is very possible that he is on top of a skyscraper threatening to jump off if his girl doesn't quit her job.

 

Haven't had time to read the thread yet (I will), but if it makes you feel better, I flirt with ground stewardesses all the time.

 

Hmm.. how about..

- Call her every 5 minutes to ask what she is doing
- Turn up unexpectedly throughout the day with flowers and other gifts, and make a big scene at giving the gifts to her - at least 5 times a day
- If you can't see her because you are busy, send in the barbershop choir
- Grovel at and threaten physical punishment to all her guy co-workers and friends if they even dare to so much as look at her.

or..

- learn to trust her.

Your choice... hope you make the right one. Good luck!