Would you start a relationship with a girl, knowing the friendship would end?

Thank you for confirming the ladder theory from a female perspective.

 

I say take the cash on black jack.

 

Yeah its become quite apparent a bunch of people in here need a woman's opinion. LOL

 

I said hit it. So what if the friendship is over. Once you get marry later on down the road you can't have a female BFF. Your future wifey won't allow it.

 

if she's hot - its worth the risk.

plenty of other girls to be friends with out there.

 

Two of the biggest relationships of my life happened with people I was very close friends with for over a 2 years before anything romantic happened between us. They were also two of the best, closest romantic relationships I've ever had, and I think, the friendship first made it deeper. In those two cases the friendship was only a good thing and didn't play into the break up at all except to make it harder on everyone involved, but break ups aren't easy to begin with.

It was never my intention when either of those friendships started, nor was it the intention of the girls, but when it happened, there was a level of intimacy that was very hard to come by with any of the other romantic relationships in my life. One of those may have been the most intimate relationships I've ever had, and when it was working was the best ever.

But I didn't rule out a long term future with either of those girls before it started, nor did I count on one, or plan one. I was just willing to see where it took me.

If you are ruling out any kind of future ahead of time, why change a good friendship?

 

Do it.

There are other girls to be BFF's with.

I've dated my bff for a couple of years, didn't work out, she got married, I found a new girl, life goes on. I guess it all depends on how emotionally attached you are to certain things as a person. I'm the type that let's things go and find something better.

Besides, you never know, she MIGHT be the one. You just haven't realized it yet.

 

Eventually, you get out of the "friend zone" or the "friend zone" gets rid of you.

It's a vicious cycle. Go for it. My girl is by best friend, but our friendship has changed over the years. It's unexplainable, but it just seems to...happen.

Love and nappiness.

 

Man its so true. Why the hell would anyone put up with a woman if they weren't getting laid?

Thats just ridiculous.

 

whatever you do, dont take on any boyfriend responsibilities if you aren't getting any boyfriend benefits.

 

There is nothing wrong with testing the waters and seeing if there is even any chemistry...trust me, you'll both know and you get that akwardness out of the way...would you hit it?

have a leap of faith...

 

I would never start a relationship with a girl I don't intend to marry or see as a potential wife, regardless of whether a friendship is at stake or not.

 

if a girl is cool enough to be a friend, then she's cool enough to be a girlfriend, thus guy/girl platonic relationships cannot exist

 

it's ok to be horny at anyone. it's still summer.

 

fwiw - i married my best friend. she was my best friend...and we had both always been dating other people. when we weren't, it was too weird to move the relationship to something else. and i defintely feared losing my best friend. but 16 years later (13 of which we've been married) i'm really glad i took a chance.

 

This is obviously just me, but I just can't envision being that close with a female without feelings creeping in.

It's not to say you can't be close to a female, but "BFF"...that's just a label I'll never put on anyone b/c my man card won't allow it...and I'm over the age of 12.

 

How old are you? In your 20s?

Let me break it down for you. This female BFF, odds are you two won't be spending the next 50 years hanging out and being buddies. One of you will eventually get married and it will totally change the friendship dynamic. And then, you'll be wondering what could have been. Don't overvalue what you have now, because odds are good that it's going to change no matter if you keep things platonic or go for it.

Friendship comes and friendship goes, just like romantic relationships. Saying you don't want to ruin what you have is just the fear talking.

 

This.

 

Truth.

 

Well said. And who you choose to be a wife is far more important to how well you will succeed in life than whether some random chick will continue to be your BFF in the short term. Get your priorities right.