It's nobody's fault. **** happens. We aren't perfect or make the best decisions. The neighbor made some poor choices in her approach. Roxran wanted to know if he made a mistake, some people thought so, and gave suggestions to correct it. It's his "right" to do whatever he wants. Some people think that improving relations with a neighbor is mutually beneficial. He doesn't have to sell his soul to make it right, but he can approach the neighbor and see what he can do. ...I don't know why this sounds so hard.
It sure sounds like many are putting the fault on Roxran. The suggestions don't sound so hard at all. Some of the suggestions are perfectly reasonable. I just don't think Roxran should feel obligated to go and apologize. I have yet to hear one person suggest that the lady should apologize for startling him by coming onto his property from behind. Why has she not come by, rang the front doorbell, and told Rox "Hey, sorry I came up behind you and startled you. That wasn't my intention, and I can understand why you reacted as you did. As a person wanting to become a police officer, I should know that trespassing is frowned upon. I apologize for that and I assure you it won't happen again."
because ROXRAN never every told her or made it felt like her Black figure and child scared the **** out of him. How was she to know she made him piss his pants?
So again, it is Roxrans fault. He was able to figure out what he thinks he may have done wrong. She can't?
dumbest thread in some time. ROXRAN, just go talk to the b****. ain't that complicated. the rest of you armchair ethicists should go out and get laid or something.
yea, sorry, your an ass lol... if you don't know her, maybe introduce yourself first? and it's not like she's trying to do anything bad to you or take anything from you... "i have the right to say no" that sounded really douche imo. sorry man
Wow. WHy the hell would she even come back again to speak to him after he flat out denied her like that? WHen someone is telling you to basically piss off without hearing you out, you aren't going to go and try to bug them some more. I can't believe someone would actually suggest that. Roxran shouldn't be obligated to do ****. But even he knows he could have handled it better, and in trying to be a better neighbor he's shared his story with us to discuss. My opinion is: I would go back and try to make amends. Just know that if you're going to knock on her door, you're pretty much signing yourself up for what she wanted you to sign for in the first place. Another option is (if you don't want to HAVE to sign it), wait a week or two, and then maybe go and just let her know you felt startled and you should have heard her out or apologize for being brash or something.
One of my next door neighbors, I don't like them, they annoy me, but it's not like we have ever had a fight or anything, we just RARELY speak; very rarely. That said, their dog has gotten out of their yard several times, and every time that I have seen it, I have gotten it and put it back in their yard. Whenever I let them know what happened (which is usually one of the rare occasions that we speak), I am pleasant and say something like "oh, just wanted to let you know! *smile". But I do that just because I am a decent person. Even if they didn't sign a petition for me one time, or didn't buy a Gold C book from my kid, or if some trash of theirs blew into my lawn, I'm still going to put their dog in their yard, or if their house is being robbed, I'm going to call 911, whatever. If the OP doesn't desire/care to be friends with the neighbor in question, who cares? He is not obligated to do anything.
I'm pretty sure nobody is saying he is OBLIGATED BY THE LAWS OF THE UNITED EARTH FEDERATION to be friendly. Falcon Tacos seems to be unable to understand that small point as well. He did not act in the most pleasant fashion and people are simply commenting on that. Is it? That's certainly not what I'm implying. You, however, seem to enjoy putting that standard on the neighbor, but start getting all defensive when the same is asked of your buttbuddy. Err...yea I know I did, I even said so....I'm not trying to denial anything here, unlike you
Name calling? Really? Ok Douchebag816. The cool thing is, you actually got the tags right this time. Congrats! Golf clap for you.
I have never seen her since then. I know it is a mixed household, and I have seen an older black woman, but NOT her. . . I have already hired contractors to install a privacy fence, and the posts are currently set with the expectation the work will be done in the morning.
I lol'd @ the part about his adrenaline pumping and the now infamous "I have the right to say no." line. I think the fact that she was black did have a part in your reaction. Is it really that odd you saw a black person in a predominantly hispanic neighborhood? Do you never see black people or something? Its 2010, you're bound to run to different cultures and people everywhere you go. It shouldn't be odd. You have a point, you don't have to do anything. But given what you told us about what she asked, It would have been nice. I would have done it mainly for the fact that she has a family and is trying to get a job with the POLICE. It'd be a nice feeling to know that I helped the neighborhood get a job with the Police. Always good to have friends in law enforcement. Plus, it didn't seem like too much of a hassle to be one of her references.
