Well, I have pretty depressed lately at the inability of finding the right girl. :/. I'm starting to get concerned for the future, so I thought I'd ask when did you find the "right person?"
There is no one "right person", categorically... there are probably millions of compatible people out there for you. Where have you been looking? Bars? Clubs? Box Socials? Tried online dating? Here's the thing. You keep that attitude, the depressed, lonely guy attitude... you're setting yourself up for major failure. Not only are you not going to be in condition to find a suitable match who provides maximum happiness, but in your desperate state... you'll be more inclined to latch onto the next one that comes along and you'll project that "right one" image onto that person even if that person isn't even close to what you're really looking for. Shift your perspective, a lot of people make the mistake of thinking they just haven't found the right one yet. In reality, that is a romantic fairy tale. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and tail is tail.
What is your right girl? How old are you? The general advice would be to focus on having fun with women and find the ones that take you out of your comfort zone.
Cameron has never been in love - at least, nobody's ever been in love with him. If things don't change for him, he's gonna marry the first girl he lays, and she's gonna treat him like ****, because she will have given him what he has built up in his mind as the end-all, be-all of human existence. She won't respect him, 'cause you can't respect somebody who kisses your ass. It just doesn't work.
I have 2 friends I can think of getting married under 20. One is divorced, and actually already remarried to someone else. The other passed away, but had been close to a divorce.
Almost 25. I just can't tame my inner demons and become self discipline enough to accept rejection in a relationship. I know that it takes multiple tries to find the right person, but everytime I fail, it hurts more as opposed to hurting less...I just wanna give up and be solo at times, but the happiness I get from a relationship is something that cannot be replaced, even though I have tried with money and material things. . Life sucks balls when you're battling it alone
What exactly do you mean "Still Looking"? Are you thinking more literally like in marital status classifications on legal/government documents? Such as The Right Person and I became official 7 years ago and we are still not married; so according to "them" I am still single - still looking to be married? Or, are you talking like still looking for The Right Person in the classic sense of being single?
I believe it I think the chance of someone have a lasting relationship while getting married under 20 is like 1% Luckily I think we are going to last Will be 13 years this November.
What moes said. Have to be happy on your own/with yourself first, otherwise you'll likely never be able to sustain a healthy, committed relationship.
Categorically, eh? Met at 17, dating off and on at 18, married to, what I learn more every day, is my categorical one right person at 23, still very happily married many many many years later.
Rejection is often self-inflicted, remember that. You're 24 years old. You are in the prime of your life man, if you can't handle the world alone... you're looking for a mother more than a partner. Dependency is severely unattractive.
How can I do this? How can I go against my own nature and instincts? What you are saying is wonderful, and very wise, but I'm trying and cannot seem to change my mindset. Everytime I meet a girl, I am doing the EXACT same thing you said, I project the "right girl" image on her, even though that is not the case at all. You = wise. How can I stop this? How can I train my mind, and to an extent, my body to fight what is apparently innate in me.
