How do you talk to girls or people you don't really know?

First of all, people LOVE talking about themselves, girls especially. So just show some interest in them.

Secondly, just TRY. Sounds kinda bland but trust me, it will actually give you some confidence. Yes, you're scared. Yes, your worried and nervous about what to say. But as along as you have a mind set of not giving up on the conversation and actually trying to progress it, you'll have something going for ya.

Third, try to have conversations often. The more you do it, the more natural it is. Gotta get over that hump first though.

Good luck! I've had the same problem.

 

This is really excellent advice. Many girls really do like to "play the matchmaker." If they've gotten to know you, they'll start thinking that you're a nice guy and might be perfect for "fill in the blank." Let them know you'd be interested in meeting someone. Don't act desperate, but just say you've been looking to meet some new chicks and do they know anyone you might like? You don't have anything to lose. I'm assuming you have friends with girlfriends, but that might not be the case. If you don't, just get out where there are girls and try to start a conversation with one who interests you. If you strike out, just keep at it. A good friend of mine "hits up" every nice looking girl he runs into. He isn't great looking or anything, but he has amazing luck. He told me once that the law of averages pays off. Chat up 10 chicks and you are apt to have some luck with at least one.

What have you got to lose? Give it a shot and good luck! Nothing wrong at all about starting a thread like this. Heck, it's Hangout!

 

Confident but not Cocky

Be genuine, and dont try to be somebody your not. Girls love accents so stick with it. Look them in the eyes, most girls dont like a guy who stares at their t*** through out the whole conversation. I know this part really sucks, but you have to listen to them cause they will know if your not. If a girl acts snobby towards you for any reason other than you were being a dick, then dont worry about it cause karma is a biatch.

Last but not least, when you get to the extracurricular activities, wear protection. Or else you will wind up like me with 3 kids by 3 women. Child support sucks dude, trust me.

 

man be confident and cocky and use humor
don't ever be predictable and DON'T BE A WUSSY

look I even did some modeling, did photo shoots of underwear and that stuff and still had problems talking to girls
so appearance isn't your number one thing, it helps but it isn't the most important thing

man who helped me and I'm sure he helped many people is David DeAngelo
google him, subscribe to a newsletter, look if it works for you and if it does buy a book, read it

the book won't do miracles, you won't be dating 8 super models after and it doesn't promise that but it WILL open your eyes about some things regarding dating, attraction etc.

good luck

 

Lower your standards, you'll feel more certain of the outcome. If you're fat, poor and pimply, guess what kind of girls you should be talking to. Improve your appearance, seeing something pretty in the mirror every morning will shape your whole day. Lower the risk, and increase your confidence level, you'll be able to talk more freely, rack up more experiences, and learn what works and what doesn't work socially.

 

There has been some great advice in this thread, but it seems most posters are addressing the symptom (confidence) without addressing the root of the problem: self-image. Your hesitance to share aspects of yourself (such as your accent) is indicative of a problem with self-esteem. In order for you to effectively connect with others, you must first connect with who you really are. You must accept and embrace the things that are imperfect within yourself and acknowledge and take pride in the things within you that are exceptional (they are there, you just need to recognize them). Only when you truly know and accept who you really are will you be able to share it with the world.

 

No wonder Deckard's owl was a babe magnet.

 

It appears that your problem isn't just talking to chicks, but rather talking to people in general. Talk to guys first, just to get yourself acquainted with talking to strangers. This is much less pressure. Once you have built the confidence in talking to people in general, talking to chicks will become alot easier.

But ultimately you need to be a more interesting and well rounded person. You need to be knowledgeable of things outside of school, NBA basketball and video games. Learn about popular culture, music, current events, politics, pets and animals and other things that alot more people can relate to. If you have something to talk about to anyone, it becomes alot less awkward when trying to strike up a random conversation.

 

Girls usually approach me so I rarely start the conversation but I keep it interesting. Just be confident and relax, put your shoulders back (so that your chest is out a bit because it looks more manly) and lift your head so they can see your face. Look aware, and if it helps, start talking with someone (anyone, even if it's a teacher) so that it looks like you're important or social. Then, it may make the girl more intrigued with you.

 

Come on man....

 

Where in Canada are you and what accent do you have?

Echoing what many people already said, just be confident. There's no need to be shy about anything, just walk in a room at ease and act like you own the place, but not too cocky. Smile often (not in a weird way) and pick the right place to use the right topic of discussion (don't talk about politics at a party) and you'll be alright.

 

If I get nervous around girls, I just put my hands in my pocket and fiddle with my wang.

 

Ask Mike Leach

 

I would take this guy's advice... he's a PRO.

 

Agree. Gotta get in where you fit in. Maybe you're "supposed" to have your aim set on the cheerleaders and class favorites. No one cares about that stuff AFTER high school. They're too busy working, drinking and drugging it up to even remember that crap. Really a band camp laugh counts just as much as a student council laugh in the end. Plus its temporary, start low and build up over time.

You see the advice of "Be Yourself". Well what does that mean? It means that other people are more interested in the person you are NOW than they appear, more than what you think.

When some nice fat old lady talks to you, do you say "get away from me?" No, you hear what she has to say. Its the same with everyone else, same way everyone treats YOU. You already have the space to do what you want, there arent any rigid guidelines. Even fat ugly people, there's space for everyone. You really dont have any "deal-breaking" flaws.

I had accent and voice concerns the same way. I got teased about how I talked, still do. I took it hard and school life went into the crapper...but some people actually think in their own warped way thats "helping" you. What they want to see in reply is a well stated "hey F*** you, suck my canadian bacon" with a laugh. And then everyone lives merrily.

Or, you can just be comfortably awkward guy. Nothing wrong with that. Conan O'Brien's made millions off of that. Makes you look like you have character. You dont have to a chatterbox. Just be comfortable when its your time off the bench.

(And YES American girls are b****es. It is our county's fault. You're right.)

 

Be Handsome.

Be Attractive.

Don't Be Unattractive.

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As respected equals.

No one is better than anyone else.

DD

 

"I've heard you say many times
That you're better than no one
And no one is better than yo-o-ou.
If you really believe that
You know you have nothing
To win and nothing to lo-o-ose."

Name that song, DD. Either way, go listen to it.