I've done the online dating thing for awhile, I met my ex through this avenue and we were together almost 4 years. I met my current girlfriend online also and she's hands down the coolest girl I've ever met. I turned my best friend onto the idea and he's super happy with his girlfriend as well. It works. It also works a lot better than picking up random people based off looks.
I've had my fair share of both traditional and online dating experience, and I honestly haven't found any real difference once you get past the first couple of dates. The difference is that being able to browse the masses for a handful of people who are at least remotely interested in the same things and have the same moral values, political views, etc. is extremely convenient. So really I'd have to give the overall edge to online dating at this point.
Not a pro in either real or online. My answer is I dont see anything wrong with online dating. You can go on a real life blind date. You can see your cousin's hot friend on Facebook and get a hookup from there. You can go straight to the hookup site without any of the middle stuff. If its the same people, what difference does it make. Nowadays it tends to be those same types of people. The method of the hookup used to be the "authenticator" of a dating hookup, but its not so much the case anymore. Newspaper and print ads are still the creepy sources.
Honestly, I thought it was all a scam before finding out that my cousin used it to find his wife. I met her, and she was completely normal (contrary to my stereotype of online daters). After seeing more and more of my friends use the online dating sites, I would have to say I would use it if I weren't already involved with someone.
Which of these dating sites will allow to me to screen the females based on their musical preferences?
POF typically encourages its users to specify their preferences in movies, tv, music, etc. Although in my dating experience I've found that those are the absolute worst things to discriminate on.
I would never think of using it myself, but I worked with a lady who tried them all to no avail. If you can't meet people who you connect with in the typical fashion, at clubs, circle of friends, the gym, etc. etc. then I think the same holds true with these sites. I don't believe they hold any answers to match-making, regardless of how convincing their advertising is. Eventually, you have to make a connection based on your personality, which obviously isn't working too well if you're reduced to relying on the internet.
This really doesn't have much to do with online dating. You can be a barfly/club-rat who sucks at dating, or be an internet romeo. They are not mutually exclusive. A lot of people who use online dating find it to be more effective, (getting to know someone before dating is hugely useful), efficient (timesaver for sure), and safe (generally you are finding people who are more interested IN dating rather than people who just happen to be at a bar/club that night). I don't think many people are honestly relying on some algorithm to find their mate, its just different strokes for different folks.
It's for people who feel like having extra-marital affairs, but I'm sure you'll find your fair share of people interested in three-ways or swinging on there as well.
I'd say just use the free ones. I'm sure you 'll have to delve thru advertising, but at least you're not pissing money away in the process.
Fling.com or Craigslist is better for that. Still, pretty hard to find a single girl to join via online, but it is easy to meet other swinging couples.
I have no idea what my username was when I met my wife, but probably was at cupidjunction.com when I met my first online girl.
Tried match.com back in the day. Met some flaky, weird girls but one that was worth dating for a short while. She ended up being a nut but was fun for a while. I tried POF also and actually met my current GF there. You're going to have to wade through a lot of trash on there but you might get lucky. Truth be told, I had horrible luck on there (mostly ugly women messaging me) and was about to delete my profile when I ran across the one that belonged to my current GF. I don't get what some people have against online dating. For those of us with standards and who are actually looking for someone we are compatible with it's a great tool. I have no idea how else I would have been been exposed to enough women to meet a few that fit my criteria without the internet.
