I'm thinking about jumping into the whole online dating thing but before I do I'm interested in hearing about some of your experiences (good or bad). I'll admit that my initial goal is to get laid (I am a guy after all), but if I meet a cool chick and something else develops then I'm not against it. I see that most of the girls who join these online dating sites always put it out there that they aren't looking for hook-ups but I wouldn't expect them to actually say they are if that is indeed what they are looking for.
Two guys I worked with in the past used those kinds of sites. One of them was single and just used it for dating. Another guy was divorced with kids and ended up meeting his second wife. I actually met the lady at lunch once and she was both good-looking and really nice. I have no idea what site he used but it changed my impression of that whole business.
I think that, if I was single, I'd try online dating. Might as well. Traditional methods of finding a match aren't nearly as accurate or efficient.
I've always thought that sites like eharmony and match.com are a scam, but I'm probably wrong. I had a friend who dated online. I don't know if he's still with her or not, but it seems to work for some people. I've done a face-to-face meeting with a girl I met online a few years ago in college. Not doing that again.
A friend of mine met and married an amazing woman through eHarmony. They were both really good people who didn't meet people in their workplace and weren't the type of people who go out to clubs or bars to meet people.
Everything I have heard from acquaintances leads me to believe its an easy way to score with a diverse range of chicks. If you aren't embarrassed go for it. They are looking for the same.
I've had a positive view of what online dating can be before there was any negativity around the subject: My old college roommate met a girl in an online chat room before eHarmony or Match.com or any of the others existed. Literally like one of those old school 'chat rooms for singles' things. They've been married for over 10 years and have two little girls and they're so dopey-in-love it's almost nauseating. God bless 'em, though.
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You get what you pay for Pleantyoffish.(free) There are few attractive girls the ones that are usually have atleast 2 kids.. Okcupid! (free) same as above though i think POF is a tad better bc it seems to be more popular eharmony(pay) some attractive girls but I dislike not being in complete control match-(pay) its the best. Some attractive girls and you can pick and choose who to talk to. My impression from being on there for a few years is most are not looking for anything serious despite what they say..... I'm going to experiment with itsjustlunch soon not sure what to expect but worth a shot...
One of my best friends, a middle-aged divorced guy, uses online services all the time and has had some amazing luck. I'm seeing him tomorrow and will try to remember to ask what services he uses. Believe me... if you saw this guy you would never imagine he could get lucky with these things, but he does. I've met some of the chicks and they were nice looking.
I've been online dating for 4 years. POF is good for what it costs, but you'll find a TON of baby mommas. (never met a real winner on there, just FBs) Match gives you a ton of control, but it is the most dependent on your own legwork. (met more good friends on here than anything else) Eharmony is for the more serious crowd, and they tend to "hold your hand" a lot through the communication process, which can be annoying. (met a girl i was nuts for on here, but the rest of it was a waste of time) OKCupid is more of a socializing site than dating really, although I met the current girl I'm dating on there, and she is super badass. Best of luck to you.
I met a few girls but none of them can handle number 2. Disappointing to say the least as that is my forte.
