After all I went through to bring you into this world, suffering, struggling, and sacrificing everything for you? Now do what your mommy says, and tell that w**** to go away; you know no one will ever love and care for you like mommy. Wait, come here, you have a little smudge on your cheek... Have you eaten, today? I sure hope this mole isn't cancerous, I stayed up all night worried about it. Love, Mommy
Ask yourself if you want to be right...or happy. Sounds like from reading you, ex = happy and mom = right. Being happy last a lot longer than being right, plus it's much more fun.
haha good one..... I only ask for advice here cuz you guys are actually pretty good for it. My friends have already given me their opinions. The bottom line is I don't know what to do and I do really still love my ex. For the record, I see my mother once a week. I go to her house on Sundays and stay overnight and go straight to work on Mondays. Yes I know that is still a bit much. I don't know how she would deal if I stopped doing that. Yeah my mother is from Taiwan so she is pretty traditional and expects certain things like being walked to the door. She feels my ex wasn't treating her the proper way. My ex resented my mother being such a big part of my life. I feel like I'm caught in a sandwich, and definitely not the good kind.
No, which is probably why my ex was actually really happy when she heard I was going to Baltimore. She hoped we could have our own lives there for a little bit.
i didn't go through everyone's comments so i'll probably just be repeating what others are saying. Here's my POV. There is nothing wrong with being close to your mom and visiting her, but once you've come to point in your life where you're committed to someone else, things do and should change. Visiting/having dinner once/twice a week is tolerable. Making a couple of phone calls to her is also fine. Now, is she the type of person who no matter what makes the point to make your personal life a little impossible because she's always butting in?? If so, then that right there is the problem. It doesn't change overnight but I'd have a talk with her and set boundaries cause all it will do is push you away from her even though you love her so much. When you decide to get married, your priorities change. Doesn't mean she's out of your life, it just means you need to handle business with your own family. Now as far as the ex is concerned, missing her shouldnt be a reason to propose. Sometimes you miss them, love them but doesn't mean its the right choice considering the circumstances that surround u at the moment. If ALREADY, since the first year, she was complaining about your mom and yall would have arguements..IT WILL NOT GET BETTER WHEN YOU'RE MARRIED! and then giving u an ultimatum...sorry but i wouldnt want a guy to propose to me just cause i threatened to leave him. I want him to propose all on his own and because he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. so there u go. thats my opinion about the whole thing choose wisely, sadly u can't always base ur decisions on ur emotions but rather whats the smart thing to do. like tina turner said "whats love got to do with it" hahahaha jk
Thats what I thought. It sounded like the respect thing that most foreign parents and countries have their own requirements for. The move to B-more will be a good thing imho.
"Like one time we were at my apartment on a friday night and my mom stopped by unexpectedly. Instead of welcoming my mom, my girlfriend reacted poorly to it and got pissed that my mom would ruin our plans for the night. She actually told me "You said that your mom wouldn't interfere with our relationship!" This was a year ago. I'm still not over it. Also, she was very distant and almost standoffish around my mother, early on in our relationship." Well this is simply not acceptable to me, not like it was Valentines Day or anything. Yes a marriage is a relationship between two families. If you weren't able to solve the problem in the past two years, you are not likely to get rid of it ever. Girlfriend comes and goes. Plus you already know you are not ready to get married yet. Make the decision already.
