I'm dealing with a situation where I feel I'm being dealt with wrongly. I'm getting the short stick and it gripes me. It seems I am a victim of selfishness and it is irking me. I'm trying not to let it affect friendships but some resentment lurks in the back of my mind. I hesitate to say anything for it will just come off as whining, but I think that objectively I am on solid ground: I've been wronged. It is something that cannot be undone. It will go away in time, but I'd like to put it out of my mind now... What recommendations do BBSers have for expediting the process?
Write it down first so you can elucidate your thoughts about whatever you're going to say to the person. Then firmly tell them face to face if possible (body language necessary) that you're not gonna put up with it anymore. Don't accept BS counter arguments if you know you're in the right. And don't let them change the subject either until you get what you want. Good luck.
Can you be a little less specific and a little more ambiguous? I think I understand too much of what is going on for me to be able to help you.
I could but choose not to. I'm just looking for some general guidance about how one can better just put something behind them. No one can solve this. It's already done. While I have a right, I think, and a desire, for sure, to vent... I am choosing not to because it will change nothing, do no good and just do further damage to the relationships. I just want some wisdom to help me put it behind me.
my experience with these situations have taught me that time is really the only cure. If you truely feel you did no wrong, then do not beat yourself up. Go play some basketball, turn on the Xbox, go to the movies. Just get it off of your mind for now. good luck.
accept that it cannot be changed, depending on the role the person plays in you life either love'em and forgive them or get them out of your life
Drugs and hookers. Actually Lanlord Landry probably has the best advice. It'll go away with time. Meanwhile, play some basketball. Exercise can clear your mind.
Ask yourself, in one year will this matter? One month? One week? If it won't matter in X amount of time, simply accelerate the timeline and get over it quicker. If it will always matter, I suggest confronting the problem and trying to resolve it.
I literally did nothing. Things were done, in my opinion, around and through me for someone else's selfish benefit... and to my future detriment. I found out about it after the fact. Contracts are signed etc. Nothing to do but come to grips and go on.
Look, we're all upset about the T-Mac situation, but you can't let it upset you like this. You're right, you are a victim of selfishness, but, like you said, it will go away in time.
The thing that always works for me is to sit back and list in my mind all the times I've gotten the a break I didn't deserve, or been selfish at someones expense. Invariably that makes the anger go away, as I see I am way ahead in the balance and what I am pissed about is small potatos in comparison. Sounds cheesy, but it actually works for me.
James chapter 1... if you dare read it (it's the Bible ya' know). j/k but not j/k about the James 1 thing.
Thanks for that. In a similar vein, I find myself drumming up a wellspring of action which will dwarf the loss. This may be good for me-- a good, swift kick in the butt. I know you, Ottomaton for one, have always wanted to do that.
Mr. giddyup, sir, I feel like that, too. I come off as a whiner maybe due to the extent of my weak vocabulary, for I cannot find the exact words to express the opposite party's wrongdoings and how they affect not only me, but the entire environment. Sometimes it's best to just, if it is not causing much harm, let it go for a while, and in time karma will find the best in you and the worst in them. Don't beat yourself up for wrong stuff someone else does, but don't stay quiet, either. Good luck, sir.
