Here is the problem: I have a crooked nose. My mother slipped when she was still pregnant with me. They had to stitch my lip up to the left nostril. It's something that has been causing my low self-esteem forever... but the thing is, when I ask others what they think of it, they never noticed it until I asked them. When I look at pictures it's the first thing I catch and it kills me! but again... people say that I'm pretty good-looking and cute but I always think about the unproportional part of my nose... and I always think... they think I look handsome but they haven't noticed my nose and when they do it's minus handsome points. But again... people keep saying they don't notice it and when they do notice it they say it's not a problem... I'm the only one having a problem with it... Sorry for being so EMO but I need help over this. Thanks.
I'm sorry, I know it's wrong to laugh at a situation like that, but I just cracked up by how you actually got the crooked nose. Anyways, I don't think you should bring it up. And honestly, who cares what other people think? You tell them to go f themselves if they judge you by your appearance. I think it's pitiful and pathetic if someone calls you ugly or anything like that, you're good.. don't bring it up and tell whoever cares about it to go suck a nut. You should be confident in yourself, you can't have low self-esteem.
While the jokes hopefully are making you smile, I'll jump in and try and offer some advice. 1) Damn near every single person who walks this earth has some sort of issue with their appearance. If you place a mirror in front of almost anybody, they will inevitably have some 'fatal flaw' that they notice first when they look at themselves. Realizing that hardly anybody (if anybody at all) is completely satisfied with how they look is a huge key to gaining confidence... which leads me to my next point. 2) Confidence, Confidence, Confidence. This, not looks, is the key to attracting women. They can smell a lack of confidence a mile away. If you are self-conscious about something, they will always use their jedi mind tricks and be able to tell. I have countless unattractive friends who always have a cute girl with them, and it always revolves back to their confidence. So the trick here is even if you aren't confident with how you look, you have to try and act it. It sounds like your issue isn't even that noticeable, but more of a personal mind game. You just have to try and forget about it and most girls will too. Which leads me to... 3) If a girl decides to not talk to you because of something regarding your appearance, this is NOT a girl you would want anyway. I can't count how many times I see guys fretting over not hitting it off with a girl, when it is obvious that they would have been miserable with this girl anyway. And there really is no such thing as 'losing handsome points.' If a girl thinks your handsome at first glance, then guess what buddy, you're handsome! When inspected closely, any person will have flaws, but if people are saying you are good looking at first glance, then you have a one-up on most people. 4) Flaws that you notice about yourself ALWAYS appear worse than they are. Think about how many faces you see in a day. Every one of them I can guarantee has some sort of 'flaw.' Your personal one may stand out to you because you look at it in a mirror every day, but to others they probably don't even notice it because of the incredible amounts of 'flaws' they see daily. I used to be really self-conscious about my height (or lack of) and thinking about the stuff I just listed above really has seemed to help...slowly but surely. Just hang in there man! And don't forget... Confidence, Confidence, Confidence!!
It depends how crooked it is. Is it to where its a deformity? A couple degrees off kilter isnt anything. Still if you're wondering, and if its possible, yes its okay to want cosmetic enhancement for it. You're not selling out by doing that. Assuming its permanent and non fixable, yes its gonna prevent you from getting a modeling contract, alright? Yes you're at a slight "disadvantage" but you can get by. Do what every other blemished, less than average looking person does and overcompensate in something else. Look at Stephen Hawking for christ's sake. I know someone who was similarly obsessed over his nose in his younger years but hasnt brought it up in years. I guess there's just an inevitability that you gotta go with what you got. In short, it doesnt appear you're a burn victim, amputee, or handicapped. If you are its still cool. Still, get over it or fix it. BTW, I have a long deep scar on the left side of my face. And my amblyopic lazy eye has gotten to be noticable. So f*** you all, S*** MY D***. Hows that for low self esteem containment
Everyone has flaws dude. That's part of what makes you you. I say be happy with the crooked nose. Have you ever seen celebrities without makeup?
Well...you asked how to get over it...and you want to, but the response is unconscious, ingrained...and resists simple conscious reframing. So, the way to deal with that is on the unconscious level. Consciously, you know that this is not a burden, but unconsciously, you have an emotional response, that's trying to protect you. So, if I were to ask you, "What is that emotion doing for you?" What would your response be? Consider it...knowing that all unconscious responses are trying to do something positive for you...but they may be using something by habit, that no longer serves you, appropriately. When you have that answer, I have a few more questions that may change your way of thinking. The sense and grammar may seem a little strange, but that's to unlock your pattern of thinking about this thing that used to be a problem for you.
This guy's had a crooked nose his entire movie career... He's considered sexy by plenty of women (maybe a replicant or two), and I'm pretty sure the majority of people haven't noticed.
^^^Is that a pic of Harrison Ford in Blade Runner??!!? Seriously, I haven't thought of that flick in AGES!! Thanks for posting this - the hangout needs more bladerunner pics for sure!!
You've been a member for around 7 years and have over 1700 posts, yet you don't recall the poster "Deckard" who also has been here a long time with a high post count?
No kidding. Deck, I believe, feels obligated to post at least 1 blade runner picture for every 10 posts.
Baseballa makes great points. As for me, I broke mine when I was about 10. My father had made me this incredible yet not replica in style version of R2D2 costume for Halloween. It was made of awesome, it had all these lights and stuff you could turn on and off from inside, a motor to make "robot" noises, and a little box on front that you could lever out and collect candy. It was hard to walk in, though, and while out that night, I hit a raised concrete slab on someone's driveway, slid part way out of the robot, and cracked my nose on the candy tray. It's crooked to this day (the nose). The costume lacked accuracy, and ended up causing me to smash my nose, but I thought it was so cool I'd do it all again. I just got my new license back a couple of weeks ago and when I looked at it I said "$#!@, forgot to turn a bit" (this makes it less/not noticeable for me, ymmd). When I see it in pictures I occasionally flinch, but to be honest I just don't think about it (granted its not too pronounced if you're not looking for it). I don't think others notice readily though, so that makes it easier. The few times I have brought it up, I get the same thing 'Ohhh yeahhhhhh, well you'd never notice it'. I once worked with a guy who delivered packages for our company. We worked together for a nearly a couple of years. He was pretty eclectic, an older guy, not our typical driver, and one day he's telling one of these stories that's hard to believe but you just know it's true. The story is about drinking Tequila in Mexico with Janis Joplin, and I'm fighting through the belief argument in my head when his story takes a turn. "Yes, it was quite the day, unfortunately , I don't remember much because not long after that I was driving (I shouldn't have been) and a car sideswiped me in my convertible. That's how I lost my fingers..." and dude busts out his left hand.... and he's missing two digits! I was astonished. This guy has been missing nearly half his hand and for two years I didn't notice? He said he had his hand up on top of the windshield and he rolled his car. Didn't get his hand off the top rail before he was upside down on it.
I piece of advice I've always liked: "Don't worry about what people think of you. They don't." Most of the self-image stuff we crucify ourselves with, no one else even notices. They're too busy obsessing on their own flaws.
you must have dated one of my friends. she told me a college story about a guy who was hot for her. the guy hit on her several times. although she thought he was good looking, she was in a relationship at the time. over and over again she tried to tell him she wasn't interested. one night they were at a party and he tried to kiss her. she pushed him away and then said, "You don't want to kiss me b/c of my nose, right?" she said she never noticed his nose, but ever since that comment that was all she can think of when she saw him.
