Not that any of you care....but..... OK, so my last decent (just my opinion) hangout thread dealt with me and my neighbor two doors down kinda seeing each other. Well, this is actually good news and bad. The bad is that I have spies on either side of me telling said neighbor, let's call her Miss X, that I have had other females over to my place. But it gets better.... Not only do the female spies tell Miss X every time I have anyone over, they also tell her on such and such night I left all dressed up, and the next morning I was not there, so I must have stayed out somewhere overnight. Well, actually, I had gone out, but the next morning I got up early to play ball. UGH......anyway, I had this gal out for the weekend two weeks ago from Alb., NM and she stayed with me. We have known each other for a long time. Apparently Agent 007 talks to Miss X a lot, and told her of my escapades. So, Miss X calls me after hearing all this and says, "You have people spying on you. " I think to myself, UH OH, here we go. Let the awkwardness begin. BUT, much to my surprise, she tells me to watch out for the neighbors, because they are talking about me, and that I don't owe her any explanation. We have no formal ties (no, not bow ties), and that she has no strings attached to me and I can do whatever I want. Sounded good, but then I thought, she says that but she won't see me again. WRONG again. We have gotten together a few more times, and it's been a lot of fun. I am still skeptical however, because I just cannot believe anyone could and would be so cool about that. I don't even know if I would be that cool about something like that. So, when does it go awry? When does it all go to hell in a handbasket and we stop talking? Like sands through the hourglass..... Man, I feel like a living episode of Melrose Place. Don't ever narc on your neighbors. It's bad, mmmkay?
If it doesn't bother her then a) Something is ghastly wrong with her b) She's creeping. c) She is using you Now is when you begin spying on her
I have been an open book, so am I really creeping? Of course, I have been the second person to tell her all these things. Someone always gets to her first. I don't think she's using me.....and if she is, what she's using me for is ok by me.
maybe things are different down there in Texas, but "casual dating is a mainstay up here in NY. neither of you are committed so its all good. the thing is though that she was nice enough to tell you about the neighbors. I Imagine you would extend the same curtesy to her. this is no big deal at all. HOWEVER, you ask when this all ends.. well it ends when you take her understanding and kindness for granted. it goes up in flames when you feel like you have to lie to her.it gets diffacult when you two string this along for a LONG time and she begins to feel as though you are taking advantage of the situation (which of cource you are) of cource life is much more complicated than this, but i think you get the point
No VOR, that just isn't fair. I do not feel at all that I am taking advantage of the situation at all.....and I don't think she feels I am either. I definitely don't feel guilty either, as we have both, at least I can confirm I have been, honest with each other. Casual dating is fine, but this is a neighbor that lives two doors down and I was worried it would get "sticky." So far so good.
They exist. So, don't think, and don't make a big deal about her being so cool--and don't lie! Just keep making her laugh. So far, so good.
dude, check the smiley. Im sure neither of you feel used or anything, but if your relationship continues on an informal level for a long period of time, experience shows that the woman usually begins to feel taken advantage of, cheapend, un appreciated what have you. most people seek progress in their lives, and when a relationship does not grow, it sometimes causes thought. Men tend to be more willing to have a non serious non commital relationship than woman, and after several months, maybe a year the stress might ruin what you are currently enjoying. besides the neighbors involvement might get to ger too. Im just saying to look after her feelings. peace
I saw the smiley VOR, just wasn't sure if the smiley meant you were joking about that comment, or if you were slyly trying to point something out. No worries. The rest of your last post I agree with. A lack of progress should and certainly will provoke thought.....unless we are both satisfied with a lack of progress, due to the benefits of a casual situation. Not sure which way it will go right now.
Listen, I am sure that you are aware of the Clutch BBS rules for proving celebrity encounters. I am afraid that it also pertains to neighbor relationships. We require picture proof of your hot neighbor. Thank you, and good day.
Well I actually do have something to add to the thread. Before I got married I lived in some apartments. The guy that lived in the building directly across from me got to be a friend. After I got married I moved to a 2 bedroom apartment in another building. Well a pretty nice looking girl moved into my old apt. and she started dating my friend. They dated for 3 years and ended up getting married last summer right before my wife and I moved into our house. The funny thing is they ended up moving into our 2 bedroom apt. I'm not trying to use this as an example of what will happen to you but just to show you that sometimes things do work out. CK
