My friend needs some urgent advice. He dated this one girl and they broke up, but he would be back with her in a heartbeat if he could. However, her best friend now wants to date him. Should he try to date his old girlfriend's best-friend? To complicate matters, summer is coming up and we all have planned out how we are gonna have tons of fun and pimp on all these chicks in the summer. For those of you who have been in similar situations or have any good advice, should he try to date her even though it might be a bad situation? And should he be crazy and single, hang out wit his boys, and mack on chicks in the summer or should he try to start something serious with a girl (he will also be going out of town every couple of weeks during the summer for about a week each time)? Advice please!
I found this great line back in '98. After I split from a girl I lived with for 3 years, I was ready to party. I didn't want to be in a relationship, but I wanted some play. All these girls that couldn't get any from me while I was living with my ex came out of the wood work. I didn't want just one, so I played this card. After going out on a date or other things, I calmly explained that I wasn't interested in a relationship so soon. I just came out of a long relationship and didn't want to jump into another. I told them I liked them and enjoyed spending time with them, but I couldn't commit to a relationship, not so soon. To switch to dog mode here, they ate it up. The only draw back was the stupid meaningful conversation that followed. Apparently, girls understand this. I milked it for about a year and a half. It was one of my best ideas ever. Go out with the girl, but after a few days or so, explain that you are not ready to jump back into a relationship. Make sure tou say how you like them and enjoy spending time with them, but you can't commit to a relationship....(pause)...not so soon. All you guys out there, feel free to use this wheather you had a relationship or not.
Come on fellas, I'm lookin for some more worthwhile advice. I talked to my friend all day and he is as confused as ever!
How old are you guys? If young, then I suggest hitting the pooty with as many honeys as possible. If older and done doing the party thing then dont worry about the best friend. He isnt dating her so why should she care.
Depending on how long your friend and his ex were together, would determine whether or not it's okay for him to hook up with her friend. I faced a similar situation last fall. I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years in Oct. 2000. Well, we had some mutual friends that I still kept in touch with- one of them happened to be her best friend. So me and her friend started hanging out more and more last summer, but only as friends. Then one night, my roommate's frat throws a party, she gets wasted and tells me that she's liked me ever since I was with her friend. This totally trips me out, and I'm kinda drunk too. Neither of us can drive home, so we hitch a ride with one of my buddies. Me and the chick are in the back seat. I let her wear my leather jacket cause it was cold that night. Anyways, we get in the back seat of my buddy's Accord, and she puts the jacket over both of our laps. She then proceeds to rub my leg gently -> then starts to feel and grab my "Johnson." Of course, cause I was drunk I didn't stop her. We get back to my place, and we lay down on my bed. I'm about to start messing around with her, remember my ex, then leave the room for a cigarette to collect my thoughts. I finally got it together, went back into the room and proceeded to pass first, take the turn to second, round second and dig in for third. I slide into 3rd base, and the coach (my conscience) gives me the stop sign. We still laugh about this incident, and we've had a few other run-ins since then. Somehow, her new boyfriend heard about some of this so we can't mess around as much.
Is he friends with the ex? If not, go for it, why would he care about the opinion of someone he has nothing to do with? If they did remain friends, he should ask her if she would be okay with him going out with their friend. Two good things can come of this. 1. She tells the her friends how considerate the guy is. 2. She decides that she really does want to be with him, which is something he wants too.
So these were all girls who rode the short bus, I take it? No way I'd *ever* have fallen for that one back in the day. I'm all for lots of promiscuous sex, but the lying about it is really irritating... trust me, if we want to sleep with you, we'll sleep with you without all that faux-meaningful crap. Oh, and Franchise3, your friend sounds like he should just go and shag lots of chicks and have fun without worrying about being in a relationship...
im to lazy to read what everyone else said but i think... he should not date his ex girlfriend's bestfriend. she(the future ex gf) is going to just end up being a rebound since he isnt over the other chic yet. just have a good time over the summer with other girls who are just looking to have a good time.
At first it was the truth, then after awhile it just became a line. Then I found out it was true about 2 years later when a girl tried to get close to me and I pushed here away. About two weeks later, I wondered why I did this. By that time it was too late. I had some stuff I hadn't gotten over. Your comments do raise an interesting point. So you are saying they were gonna sleep with me wheather there was a relationship or not? It seemed to me at the time, it was a good way to have some fun, but not get myself emotionaly involved. It seemed like I layed it on the table(no pun intended), and they took what they could get or all I was willing to offer.
First of all, my experience has been that he has no chance of getting back together with his ex. If one person is still in love with the other after the breakup it never works out. There has to be mutual dislike, bump, and hey, let's get back together. If one person is puppy loved it's going to be messy. As far as dating her friend, that's more reasonable but I have always avoided it because when he sees his ex he's going to get those old feelings back. And wait until he see's his ex with another man. And she sees him flirting with her best friend. Yikes. Everyone will be in the same room wondering what everyone else is thinking. That's called jealousy. It will reck everything. I say go bag another fish. Save yourself a wasted year.
