Good luck man. If it makes you feel any better (and I know it probably won't), not all judges are biased towards women. My dumbass ex-brother in-law just asked a judge to <B>reduce</B> his visitation with my neices and <B>reduce</B> his child support payments in half for no reason other than he didn't want to pay them...judge agreed.
Rm95, You are joking? They reduced his payments........because he did not want to visit his kids........ Well...the kids are probably better off without this deadbeat around. Kids are a gift to the parents....one that can be messy sometimes, but always a gift. DaDakota
Well, I just got back from courts w/ neither good nor bad news. What do I mean? The date was bumped to May 23rd. Since there was a visiting judge, the defense (her/her lawyer) have the right to deny him as their judge, which they did. The thing is, her lawyer should have presented to the visiting judge in writing their decision. She and her lawyer didn't even show up. The judge was not too happy w/ that, but his hands were tied, and he rescheduled for May 23rd, when the presiding judge will be back...More time for prayers.
Well...if this visiting judge and the normal judge talk to each other, perhaps her pissing off the visiting judge might be a good thing if it makes its way back to the May 23rd judge. Every little bit helps.
What happened to the rights of the child?? I think its what the child wants, not the parents. If they want to spend time with the father, then they should let them.
Ghost, You don't let the child decide, come on man, that is like letting Iverson skip practice. You know what the child wants? He wants his mommy and daddy to be with him all the time. He wants them to get back together. The child has no idea how to make a good decision here. However, the parents should act like adults and sort it out for the GOOD of the child. Sounds like Falcon is trying....and his ex is not. DaDakota
I agree with you. He's only two, and I think he needs both of us in his life equally, especially at these tender years. As bad as she's sodomized me in the divorce, my son still needs her in his life. I only want my son to have both his parents EQUALLY in his life. Of course I would love full custody, but he needs us both. That, imho as his father, is what's best for him.
when the child is 12, their wishes are taken into respect more carefully. but it's not up to a kid to raise himself...a kid might want to live with the parent who lets him skip school instead of the one who makes him go and do his homework. at some point in the equation, the kid's will has to be checked against what's reasonable. THE test in family courts concerning children is what's in the best interests of the child. That isn't always what the child wants.
I'm such an ass!!! I want to thank everyone who is offering your support in words and prayers. Knowing that I can share this kind of personal stuff with you guys and gals helps me to deal with what I'm going through. It does help knowing that you guys are here for me. Thanks a million.
Good luck. Fight it! A friend of mine threw his hands up in despair and the (fill in the blank) got everything. Later, he realized that he should have kept fighting. Hang tough!
