Look ahead in life man. I just recently got out of a relationship also and I'm loving the single life. Ive lost weight just like you, talkin to beautiful girls, school going great. God works wonders man!
I'm in an incredible relationship (have been for 5 1/2 years now) and I'm still mad as hell at the person from before (6 years ago). I F'ing hate his guts. I rarely think about he-who-shall-not-be-named, but when I do, they're incredibly evil thoughts.
I understand now how people can hit women! lol I'm not saying I would ever hit a girl, I'm just saying I understand.
Dude, you've got to let that hatred go. Its like a cancer, black and damaging. You need to sit down and try to meditate and forgive her. I know how hard it can be, and I know that you might feel like that is impossible, but the moment you learn to let that go, you will feel so much better. You will be stronger, wiser and a better person overall. Maybe its too soon, but believe me, as long as you still "hate" her, she still carries some control over you and your emotions. Take control of your life, forgive and forget and move on. If you can't right now, I understand, but try to.
I felt the same with the guy who did me horribly wrong...but it's fading away and i'm starting to not care anymore. I agree that if you still care what happened then she/he still has control of your emotions. It's best to let go and move on, bladeage.
Congrats on getting into the fire academy. I'm taking the written test on Monday. I know this is completely off topic, but I'd appreciate any advice. How did you prepare for the test?
Do you hate her because she has moved on and she is talking to other guys or because you wished things should have worked out? I was in your situation, was with a girl in high school till a yr in college, a little over 3 yrs... The first couple of months is extremely hard all I can say is keep yourself busy. Hang out with friends, work out, watch sports, hit up bars and just enjoy life. Do all the things you missed you when you were stuck in the relationship. Talk to girls but dont fall for one so soon because your in the rebound and a attractive female can easily filled that void you have of attention that you need and had. It takes time but you will be alright and you will learn from your past and it will make your future easier. The only advise I can give you is you cant LOVE someone else if you dont LOVE youself first. Good luck and use protection if your messing with Strippers LOL
good advice from everyone. I appreciate the help. And you all are right, I need to just let it go and forgive her. What makes me mad is the fact that she is with someone else. I mean we were together for 7 years and in less than 2 months she has someone else!! But anyway I will let go in time. Thanks to everyone for the help!
I don't mean to be mean, but its probably a good thing that you hate her now. Not hard to move on from a person you hate. Knowhatimsayin? At least those same feelings are no longer there.
She's just scared to be alone dude. She wants to have someone else there to take her mind off of you. 7 years is alot. Shes not over you man, trust me. Yeah she might like this guy, but I bet the time shes alone she thinks about you. You should be proud of yourself because you dont need no chick to get over her. Youre stronger than her.
Man I am stuck in the same position, with minor changes (in bold). We are not doing so well right now, and I am somewhat talking to different chick because I am losing interest, but it is never more than talking. Where you in the saem position? Did you live with her? College? You help her out financially?
I didn't live with her, we were planning on getting that done last month. but hey if you are losing interest then move on if you don't love her. I think I might have stuck with her too long. I ignored the signs that were telling me to let go sooner.
After years of service are you trying to pour hate in Tracy McGrady, or are supporting the current club and renewed possibilities? Dont let this girl be a McGrady influence. Move on move ahead and look forward to advancing to the later rounds, where you never got with her before anyways.
Yeah I wish it was that easy, because I do care about her (love her), but man I see other chicks and they are so hot and single, and it is something different, (I am sure its normal), but how the hell can one resist?
