Back At Work....

You have just gone through pretty much everyone's worst nightmare and they don't know what to say to you.

There is a big elephant in the room, and nobody knows how to acknowledge it.

What people don't understand is that you are living with this tragedy and by bringing it up, they won't be reminding you of it. You are aware of it every minute of every day.

 

While I dont know what you are going through? I am kind of on the other side. I just lost my nephew and I am trying to be there for my bro and sis n law. I care for them and miss my nephew but I know I have to be strong for them.
Ima, I prayed for you and your wife awhile back. You two will get through this with time. Take it one day at a time man.

 

You and your wife keep your head ups up, and i'll be praying for yall along with the rest of the clutchfans family....one day at a time. God Bless +

 

The important thing is you're back at work, trying to live your life - and that's what people need to see. Once they get that you're doing your best and carrying on, they'll do the same.

Godspeed.

 

we also don't know what to say, but remember (like lots of people at work I imagine) we're here. Say something or don't. We'll be here.

and as meggo said, Godspeed my friend.

 

Good to have you back. There's never enough Bearkats here.

 

I know what the other people must feel like. They really want to be supportive and feel for you but don't know what to say. It'll get better with the passing of time for them and also for you.

As others have said, we're there for you if you need someone to talk to.

Hang in there.

 

sorry to hear that man.

ima, good to have you back. i have been thinking of you and yours over the past few weeks.

 

ima,

I just read your other thread and I know I am very late on this, but I am so sorry for you and your wife's loss. Reading that just absolutely broke my heart!

I am not able to spend as much time on the BBS anymore but I have always enjoyed reading your posts and I can tell that you are an outstanding person. Nobody deserves something like that to happen to them.

I was facing a similar type situation as my wife was put on bed rest at 29 weeks and on a strong prescription for breathine. At 35 weeks, she was taken off and that is when our adventure started. On both new year's eve and new year's day, she was admitted to the labor and delivery room and both times discharged with false labor. Our son was born on Friday, January 2 in the afternoon and was nearly 5 weeks premature. The birth had to be done vaginally as she had a fibroid tumor that made it impossible for her to have a C-section. There existed a very strong possibility that the tumor could have blocked his head from going down the birth canal and she could have had to have an emergency hystrectomy performed. I had to give blood several days before our son was born just to be safe since I didn't want to lose her to massive bleeding. Thank God that everything went okay - she was fine as was he. Many people who knew us had kept us in their prayers and everything turned out okay for us.

It just really saddens me that God looked out for us but not for you and your wife and your little one. It is one of those things that I guess we will never understand but it sure doesn't make it any easier to take. I couldn't even imagine what you are going through - if that had happened to me, it would have destroyed me straight to my soul. Hang in there, ima and be there as much as you can for your wife (which I know you have). You are truly an amazing person, IMO. Don't give up and despair - your life will be restored. Never stop believing that. Email me through the board if you ever need someone to talk to.

 

What we need is a good drumming or Police thread...

 

Hang in there, ima.

 

You can start talking about happy stuff or happy moments you and your wife have spent since or before... just to break the ice and let people you're doing okay about the situation (if you truly are).

Someone has to break the ice but if you feel like there's a thick tension you can cut with a knife, just break into NOT talking about it or talking about it. It's YOUR choice, really.

 

Hang in there, ima

It's tough. It's gonna take time.

 

ima_drummer2k, you ****ing rule.


Just thought you'd like to know that.

 

We all know that, but it's good to express it every now and then... and now's a great time for it.

I second this sentiment. You ****ing rule, ima!

 

i wasn't aware of any of this but my thoughts are with you and your family. we'll be trying to start a family soon and my twin is 7 mths pregnant so i can't even imagine how it feels.

i do think it's rather nice to hear it has happened to so many others so you don't feel alone. all the best.

 

I'm glad to hear you're back at work. I think that will help the process. I'm sure your co-workers want to say something but just don't know what to say. And maybe that's not something you want right now, I don't know. I had a co-worker who's wife drowned and I had a hard time talking to him too.