Have you guys ever been in a situation where you really like a girl, you've known her for practically your whole life, you know she cares about you but is in a relationship theres a girl i've grown up with my whole life and we've always been around eachother, but now shes been in a long relationship, but she doesnt know how you feel about her What do you do? thx
depends on how urgent the situation is!! Is she about to get engaged??? if so, let her now BEFORE then!! i married my best friend...we hung out all the time and shared a TOTALLY platonic relationship. She had a boyfriend back home..I had a girlfriend back home. Our relationship was built completely around a friendship. I always thought she was attractive, but it wasn't worth risking the friendship on. Then my girlfriend and I broke up...roughly 6 months later, she and her boyfriend broke up. Then it was just plain weird....we were friends..and it was hard thinking of her as my girlfriend. But what I realized is that throughout that time we had really been dating...dating without the romantic aspects, but dating, nevertheless. At some point we decided that the relationship was heading in a different direction. About 1.5 years later, we got engaged...and on June 21, we will have been married 5 years. I find her amazingly attractive...but it's not just because of the way she looks...she is truly my best friend, and that never fades away.
Back when I was around 18 or 19, I once told a girl who I considered one of my best friends that I liked her more than as a friend. We were never the same since. I think that was about the time I became an asexual plant-like entity content to wander the world single and carefree with few responsibilities or complications. I swear I wish I could take that moment back... I haven't talked to her in years, but if I had to do it over again I never would've done that. Of course every situation is different, so it may be different for you. The outcome may be what you want. One thing I've learned in my 31 long years of life is that no matter what you do or don't do, you will think about it down the road and say "I wish I had" or "I wish I hadn't". From a purely ethical standpoint, if I were in your position, I wouldn't tell her anything while she's in a relationship until I find out how she feels about the guy. If she really likes him, then you confessing your feelings for her may put her in an awkward situation and almost seems unethical. At least that's the way I feel; you may feel differently. Yer killin' me Smallz.
Not to diminish your situation, but recently there have been a number of threads on this topic, or similar ones, with some good very good advice in them. I don't know why, but I guess the generally nicer weather and thoughts of summer just bring out the lovebirds in people??
It depends on a number of factors...WHat, if any, is your relationship with the guy she's with? Have you ever gotten any signals that she feels the same about her? WHat's their relationship like? etc...in general, it's best to be honest, but to say it in a non-threatening way, like admitting your feelings, but in a hypothetical sense, as in, if she weren't involved....Good luck, buddy.
