i have a slight dilemma: see there's this dude, ive been dating him for the past three years off and on and i really do love him a lot. we're bothing busting out of high school in may, but the only problem is he's going to leave for the navy soon. he's going to be in there for 4 years and im going to stay in houston and goto college. i dont know about long distance relationships. four years is a really loooooooooooong time. we could just stay friends, but we dont want that. ugh! what do i do
You can certainly try to make it work, though the truth is it probably won't. The odds are against you, but if you love each other, it certainly can not hurt to try. You guys may be the kind of people who beat the odds. DaDakota
Go your separate ways...date other people. Both of you will be very different by the time he gets out of the Navy. It's obvious you both have chosen to different career paths for the time being. Stay in school and get your education. os
Go to college, you'll meet plenty of cool dudes that will help you learn about yourself. It might be a cliche, but you truly do change after the highschool years. Enjoy your last few months, and then close the book and start a new life...
What BGM said. Since I graduated HS 2 years ago, I think I have changed a ton. I have the same interests, but a lot of my thinking has changed drastically.
Look at it this way... 4 years ago you were 14. Think you've changed much since then? You will change even more during the next 4 years. The thing about college is you get there and you realize that all the "roles" you came to be expected to play by the people you grew up with are no longer binding because nobody knows the high school you. There's a tremendous freedom that comes with college that some folks aren't prepared for. It can be scary, but plow through that and it will be extremely rewarding. Unfortunately, high school relationships don't tend to last, especially ones that are long distance. It can be done, but it is extremely difficult and you have to have a really solid foundation before you go off in separate directions. You also have to keep both partners growing. The saddest "friend" breakups I watched during my college years came about when one of the couple grew into a different person and the other wanted the old person back. My best advice is to promise to email or write each other, hook up when he's back in port, and agree that you'll get together and get to know each other again if neither is in a new relationship when his tour ends. My next best advice is to not pay attention to old goobers who give you advice on the BBS. Good luck.
This statement is absolutely true. When I went to my 10 year high school reunion (jeesh...I though I'd never say that! ), every person that was part of the "in crowd" was no longer in their element amongst each other. As a matter of fact, everyone had pretty much gone their separate ways and it was sorta like a room full of strangers. People who had exclusively hung out together in high school seemed reluctant to even talk to each other. It was an odd and fun situation at the same time. Enjoy your youth...do everything you can before you get "tied down". Spouses and children will eventually turn your life directions you never thought you'd visit (for me it was growing up and becoming responsible, AND understand "The Man's" point of view). Waste all of your time experimenting, exploring, and searching for yourself. Just keep your future somewhere in the back of your brain and never ignore an opportunity to better yourself and your future...just have a good time doing it. Good luck with your choice and always have faith in yourself to make the right decision for you!
When people say enjoy your youth. When does youth end? To some does it really ever ends? Yes enjoy your youth but to me that doesn't mean going and screwing every guy or girl you see. yes their is no problem with going and having fun with your friends just remember that no matter what your in either college, navy, or whatever just remember what your their for. I really hope that they stay together and its always going to be hard; hell it was hard from the beginning. I think if they stay in contact either as friends or together when they get out it will be great for both because they will have what they wanted from the start .
