Got hit with the marriage ultimatum... deadline coming up soon

Missed this reply over the weekend.

I hear you, but I think it's a slippery slope. I guess it depends on what you mean by "want to be around me." I can't think of any woman who would (or should) be OK with the MIL just popping in un-announced at any given time. That's no way to be in an adult relationship (ie. a marriage).

But if you are simply referring to the wife and MIL getting along and being nice to each other, I totally agree with you. You can't marry someone who doesn't at least treat your Mother with respect.

 

I definitely meant option B, not option A. I had to put up with a FIL who would drop by unannounced, usually early on Sat. mornings in the first couple of months after we were married. My husband had given him a key while we were on our honeymoon, so my FIL thought it gave him permission to drop by AND walk in without knocking whenever he wanted. Couple of awkward moments ensued, not that that ever stopped him. I would never treat my kids that way.

 

Wow, is it typical for guys to go ring shopping with their girl? My wife dropped subtle hints when we had been dating for a couple years as to her preference for rings, but I never would have brought her with me when I bought the thing. That takes all the romance out of it. Also, if you are still having doubts, bringing the g/f along with you was a BAD MOVE. BAD. BAD RM. There was no way in hell you would be able to NOT get a ring if you continued that trend. She would get more and more expectant with each store you looked at, and her disappointment would eventually drive you into a decision for which you aren't ready.

BAD