I almost forgot to mention..... DAMN soccer chicks are hot! the soccer chicks that are in my grade that play are so damn hot!
gr8-1: Jeff, Mrs. JB, etc. are right. If you want to make sure about it, ask yourself this question: When you talk to her, does she get real close to you or is it obvious that she backs away like she needs space? Also, does she smile at you a lot? If she smiles at you a lot and stands close to you when you talk to her, then she likes you. Plus any type of touching and that comment should clue you in. Hey, I know it is tough because I'm the world's worst at knowing when a girl/woman likes me and when they are just being nice. However, I think you just need to ask her out straight up. I know that your original idea was a neat one, but the way you have described things and if you answer yes to the 2 questions I posed you, then you shouldn't feel like you have to do this idea. Just ask her out. I think OS's idea of lunch is a good one. Use that time to get to know her by asking questions about her. Watch and see how she reacts to you during this time. If you get the feeling that there are some good vibes going off, ask her for her number after the lunch date. I would then think about what to do with her next by remembering things that she likes to do or her interests, e.g. likes outdoors stuff or going to concerts, etc. Then maybe a day or so later, call her and ask her out on a "real" date like going to a concert or going somewhere to go hiking or whatever. I don't envy you because these things are always hard, at least they have always been for me. EDIT - Sonics: Does your ear still hurt? QUIT YA HORSESH!T!! IMO - means In My Opinion
You're probably her age. What do you think? Manny, I've never stood next to her, but she doesn't shy away from me or anything. We usually just sit in class.
There's great advice here. Wish I could have had a resource like this years ago when I could have used it. Trust me, you WILL wonder "What if??" more than once. Be great, gr8-1, you have nothing to lose.
What you dont think i actually have an ear infection? i had to go get medicine for it the other day and it doesnt hurt anymore, now i just cant hear very well out of it, its pissing me off
gr8-1- If she does somehow reject your offer, you could quote Booker T and say, "Tell me you did not just say that!"
On a serious note, I'm in that situation too. There are 2 diff girls though, but fortunately they are in 2 diff classes with me. I'm really shy and rarely build up courage to ask girls out. Last one I asked out was 2 years ago in high freaking school. From what I remember of high school, there was this one really really good looking girl, who I think may have I liked me, but I was too scared because she was probably too good for me. I'm probably an average or so looking guy, while she is a 9 out of 10. For my entire Sr. year, I had feelings for her, yet never brought myself to asking her out. Then I told myself I would ask her out at the end of the school year. Turns out she got sick or something, and missed the last week of school... So that chance I had to ask her went out the window. And 2 years later, I still can't stop thinking about her, and wondering what if. I usually don't regret things, but that is at the top of the list. Hopefully, I don't put myself in this position before the semester ends in 3 weeks. I hope for your sake gr8-1, that you don't make the same wussy mistake I made.
Guys, From my experience its all about confidence and charm. Girls aren't as superficial as guys (most aren't) about looks. I think its more about their comfort zone and whether you calm them and make them smile. Some girls like the drama, but they're not worth your time anyway. Gr8-1, You have to ask her out. Not to sound like a caveman, but this 90's women think is B.S., a woman wants a man with confidence that she feels secure around and she trusts. Not someone too scared to even ask her out. It doesn't have to be some big, formal, "I really like you, will you go here and here and here with me" because a girl doesn't know you well and doesn't want to think your all serious and psycho. Just casually say lets grab some dinner some time, or some coffee. And being a college student dinner is more economical because you can spend much more time together and get more bang for your buck. That plus evenings are calmer; no classes, nice moonlight, etc. Just remember, be sweet, charming, dress casual but cool. Too formal attire stiffens up a girl, and don't show up with tennis shoes and a hat. Its the little things. Pull her chair out for her, compliment her smile, make those little subtle touches by touching her arm softly to get her physically comfortable with you. Joke with the waiters and pay the bill without being obvious about it, take her some place nice, not expensive, but a nice environment. If you're in Houston, some place like Bossa, casual, cool, get a few appetizers and a drink or two and your money. Just be yourself, my philosophy is that if you're trying to be something you're not than she will see through it and if she doesn't like who you are, to hell with her. Women are abundant resources on Earth!! By the Way, I loved the Swingers reference!
Bottom line is: If you like her, ask her out. It's better to be rejected and know where you stand with her than to not have asked her out and wondered for the rest of your life...or at least until you find the next gal you want to go out with. Quit making excuses and pull the trigger. os
Dude, you have her friggin digits!! Just call her and ask her out you puss!! Seriously, asking someone out is easy. Keeping a relationship going is the hard part.
Sonics: I'm just messing with you dude. After hearing you carry on the other night in chat, I have NO doubt that you had an ear infection. I guess I run things into the ground sometimes. Now, I just need moe to tell me what he always likes to say...
