So I did text her back in the morning... "u do? or did someone steal your phone." reading meggoleggo's posts, that was probably wrong. it was an attempt to brush her off, without ignoring her. oh, i like the making fun of the situation. y'all are pretty good at it. But, SwoLy-D prefaced his comments with "OK, but, seriously, folks.." right? anyhow, this is the 1st thxgiving i've missed with my mom in 20 years. I guess I'm feeling off today. thx for all the fun ribbing and serious advice, everyone. headed out to a restaurant thxgiving with the gf now...not quite the same.
dude, i substitute teach... i had a 13 year old girl ask me if i wanted to take her out on the weekend. i went straight to the principal and put it on record. it was still her word against mine (if she wanted to deny it), but mine is more believable at this point. the next time im in that school. i have her class again. another girl in the class asks me some questions about the work which was left for them. i spend time explaining everything. after the class the first girl starts screaming about how shes can't believe i'm flirting with other girls. i'm sick, i'm a pedophile, shes gonna call the cops, she'll get her friends to back up whatever she says... i went straight to the principals office, put it on record and told them im never working there again. sure enough she tried to make false accusations but thank god i had that stuff on record or i could've been in big trouble. long story short (too late), you need to show the text to the mom in order to prevent future problems. as for how you deal with her, thats a tough call because i want to tell you to treat her as you usually would, but you dont want her to get any wrong signals (for example putting your arm around her).
I'd try to explain her feelings to her. You make her feel special and that's what she's latching on to. Tell her she's great, and deserves to be treated nicely, but no way no how can these feelings go anywhere. You love her as family, but nothing more. That's what I'd do, I have no clue how that would turn out.
Were there signs in the past that she had unhealthy feelings towards you? Is it possible she sent the text to the wrong person? That's happened to me before.
Seriously guy, you've got to blast this out of the water, tell her parents and show them the text. This is dangerous stuff.
I'd text back to her "Don't do this anymore, it's not funny!". Exclamation mark or full-stop, see which fits your usual image toward the kids. I doubt the necessity to tell the girl's parents. If it was really just a childish prank, the friendly relationship between the uncle and niece would have gone.
So I would have thought that would have been the wrong thing to say...But that's just me...did she text back? Are you guys setting up a date at the mall...I keed... As long as you treat the situation like an adult, what could go wrong?
Don't tell the parents, Just tell her........... Don't be a snitch, confront HER like a man....... Tell her you love her as family, but anything else is unacceptable.............
though i usually stay out of 'relationship advice' threads, i would strongly advise you to go straight to her parents. this is not the sort of thing you want to let get out of hand.
Agree, forget telling her mom, tell HER. Go up to her and ask her wth that text meant. Of course, don't come in yelling and all confrontational. Do it in a semi-subtle way, but make sure both of you know what is going on. If you tell her Mom she's going to most likely make things worse.
to add further info, because i like the advice and fun here...this is the first text from her. hell, i even forgot she had my phone number, so you can imagine me waking up a 8am MT time to see this text. i usually talk to her through my mom's phone or her mom's phone. i do text and phone my oldest niece on her cell... who is a freshman in college, and her brother sr high student...but that is totally different.
I agree just tell her you love her as a family member and nothing more. I think telling the parents would be unnecessary.
go straight to the parents. show them the text. ask them if they would like you to take care of it, or them. you are risking serious problems if you don't get this stuff on record.
I find it very weird that you have to ask what to do in this situation. I’m sorry if this sounds bad, but you are a grown man and she is 15 years old. Youre her uncle heypartner and she is still a kid.
