Do your co-workers like you or tolerate you? Are you a smart@ss? If yes, do you know when to turn it off/on? Do people find it easy to confide in you? Does it matter to you whether or not people actually like you?
Our office has cliques.. So I'd say I'm in the cliques with the management, but I know there are a few other people in other cliques that think I'm a smart ass and don't care for me.. I'm only arrogant toward the people I don't get along with, but I can turn it off and on when I need to.. People in my office tend to tell me way too much information, even a specific person that I don't get along with.. I know this persons dating life and other random info because they cant keep their mouth shut.. While it does matter to me if the office as a whole likes me, I couldn't care less if certain individuals hate me.. I feel that as long as I'm working with people there are going to be these ass hats no matter where I work..
Most of them like me - but I'm sure there are a few who merely tolerate me. And a staggering majority don't have any clue I exist - thanks to working in a large corporation. Abso-****ING- lutely. As if there were any doubt. That's my litmus test for friends - if they can survive, they're good as gold! Yes, I know when to turn it off. (the answer being NEVER! ) Yeah, people confide in me, but I'm usually like #3 or #4 on their list of people they've talked to. Nope. The fewer people who like me, the fewer people's lives/friends/family I have to keep straight, and the fewer people I have to help fix their problems.
I'm a huge smartass. Some really like me, most find me abrasive. Can I turn it off, yes. Is it hard, slightly.
I think I am but I really don't care. I mean I try to be kind to everybody and not intentionally make anybody mad or upset and I do not believe I have given anybody a reason to dislike me. So with me acting like that there should not be anybody that does not like me or cannot tolerate me but if there are people like that then oh well. I try my best to stay on everybody's good side.
So this thread is just about whether you are "liked in general" at work? I thought it was "liked in general" in life, which would have been more interesting, at least to me.
Yes, if I keep getting freebies at work! The people likes to knock on my desk...and my co worker says, "geez, you have people knocking on your desk and not me!" What can I say? I'm popular at work. I think people feel comfortable confiding in me because I don't gossip at all. I'm well liked in other environments as well...It's a waste of energy to be a total b*tch.
I'm a fairly nice guy overall. I've noticed that lately, I've tried to be really nice and have tried to please everyone. But that's getting to be impossible. I'm beginning to think it's healthy for men to have spurts of being an a$$hole and it's healthy for women to be b****y every once in a while, because there are people out there that will just make you angry with their actions and lack of promises.
I'm a totally different person at work that I am at home. Everyone at work thinks I'm a nice quiet shy type who is funny once they get to know me but it takes a lot to get me out of my shell. That's only because I spend more time talking with you guys on this bbs than I do them, and that's only because you guys are a helluva lot more interesting than they are, frankly. People at work know I'm in a band, but they probably think it's just some 4-piece garage band that gigs twice a year or something. They have no idea what I actually do on weekends and I'd just assume keep it that way. I'm very George Costanza about not having my worlds collide... At home and with my friends, I'm much more outgoing although still pretty laid back. I'm nice to everyone I meet, so I guess, dog-gone-it, people pretty much like me.
Among the people that actually know me, I'm definitely liked here at work, but I don't go out of my way to be nice. I'm just not very good at being rude, even to people that I may not like that much. One reason I know I'm liked is that coworkers are always doing nice things for me. One of them got a free gym membership from my boss (it was left over from an auction) but realized she wasn't going to use it so she gave it to me. Turned out to be a $1,300 value! My boss gave me 3rd row tickets to a Texans game (wait...maybe she hates me) that were also left over from an auction, and another coworker gave me her unused $300 graphics tablet because I mentioned I was going to have to buy one for my web design classes. That same coworker went all out to decorate my cubicle on my birthday, too. My boss who just left the organization told me to contact her if I ever needed help with my resume (she thinks I'm grossly underpaid and need to find a new job). Those are just some of the major gestures, but there are smaller ones on almost a daily basis. Aside from a few bad apples here and there, it's pretty much like a big family around here.
Honestly I have to be liked...If someone doesn't like me, it bothers me...I have to find out why because I'm a pretty great guy... We all get along here at work, and we're all smart azzes, especially me...I do have people confide in me as no one has to worry, as it's in the vault...Not just at work, but in every day life...
