i guess i wasn't really thinking at the time. i was just mad. at the time, if i was going to say anything. it would probably end up with a lot of cursing. so i held back. i guess i should thought about it more. never had this kind of thing happen before. so didn't really know what to do about it, except being super mad.
I work with a guy that can be like that, though he is more a subtle jerk than someone I really want to beat the crap out of. I just take comfort in the fact that while the guy knows his stuff and can usually get his assignments completed on time, he has no future due to his attitude.
DUDE, SERIOUSLY you need to post more often!!! ...Or maybe not... Falling out of chairs laughing kinda hurts.
#2 If you can do it discreetly and confidentially. #3 Because you'll have to do it at some point in your life, might as well start now. By the way, you better get used to people complaining about you to your boss behind your back. If they don't like you, they have no reason to protect your interests and will not disclose any problem they have with you first. There will always be people who want or need to see you fail.
Sorry YT, I started giving advice based on my own experience without clearly reding your post. I meant to say that you better get used to people complaining about you without telling you beforehand, regardless of whether it's behind your back to your boss, or in a public setting like this. Hopefully if you're competent and well-liked enough, people will publicly stand up for you in situations like this.
ya, i am not worried about jobs or anything. both of my jobs including this one, i received a raise 4/5 months into it. everyone likes me. even this guy. this is completely out of nowhere.
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Oh my gosh. OP, you're just like my mom! Just let it go! You're never going to get along with 100% of your coworkers.
Step one: Put a half dozen box of donuts on his desk when he's not there. No witnesses. Step two: Take a picture of those donuts stacked up on your erect d*ck before step one, have a friend of yours e-mail it to him from an anonymous account the day after he eats them. Have them e-mail it to him while both of you are at the same place so he doesn't suspect you. Step three: Profit! Note: if he gives the donuts to other people, send the picture to them so they think that he is the one who did the prank. Extra profit.
I'm a little confused. This guy is not your boss, right? So who the hell cares what he thinks about your work? What kind of work do you do? Maybe that would make it easier to understand.
next meeting, just start talking ****e about him for about a good 30 minutes. then go off on how ugly his mom is for another 30 minutes. and close it off w/ how horrible his mom is in bed.
Let it go. Chances are everyone else knows the guy is a douche too. Just keep a nice, detailed list of every screw up he makes, and every time he rants like this. People like the guy you describe usually end up trying to seriously damage someone else's career as their own starts to collapse due to the aforementioned douche-ish attitude. A record of his idiocy will protect you.
Aren't you of Chinese heritage? Go to HR and accuse him of racial discrimination. Make him take a culturtral sensitivity class. You have to consider the ins and outs of the situation. What is this guy's rank in the company, how do the people above him see him and how do they see you. And of course what are the possible outcomes and consequences of your various choices of action and how do you value the risks and rewards. If you can very easily change jobs at about the same pay and better quality of life, then do that and ask for an exit interview with someone just to leave a record. It may help your co-workers in the future. You could ask for a sit down with the guy and express you feelings about his attitude. The meeting probably should be mediated by a representative of management that is over the both of you or your HR department. But don't expect any change or satisfaction, the more likely outcome is he will sabotage you and take every opportunity to document your weaknesses to get you fired. He could say " Sorry, I was just trying to get the best out of you" or some such crap but I doubt it. A lot of times the shait is really just coming downhill; his boss is probably using the same tactic with him. Bombastic haranguing is a pretty standard motivational technique in the US. Hardasses in sports and the military see it as SOP. If that is the accepted culture where you work, your best choice is to move on.
It is still baffling to me why you are at a place where everyone likes you, including the guy who was griping about your work, and the first thing you consider out of your options is quitting.
