What does it mean to you? I was having a conversation with a friend about courtesy/chivalry/etc? He expressed how he still opened doors for women pulled out chairs. . .etc He also expressed how many seem to either 1. be surprised or 2. don't know how to respond i.e. open a door for a woman . .she walks through without saying a word or even acknowledging it . . NOW Do men and women still have specific roles in society or is it all equal all the time . . .i.e. she can open her own door just want information on what you thing of the current state of gender roles in modern America Rocket River
Look at it this way: the less chivalrous men there are, the more women will appreciate those who still have manners.
I love to get reactions from people that way. If someone is coming out a door as Im reaching for it, I'll open it and hold for them to pass first. Its a weird courtesy thing I was raised with.. Ive learned to enjoy the reactions I get as common courtesy has become alot less common in today's society.
I've never thought of courtesy as gender-specific. And is more of a common sense thing than anything else. I've always found that that holding the door for the next person when you "pull" it open is simply more convenient. Because otherwise it will seem like you're you're being an ass. So I always do that instinctively. If the door is pushed, I hold the door long enough so the next person doesn't see the door slammed in his/her face. As for pulling a chair, I guess it depends on the situation, because otherwise the other person might not be sure if s/he should sit or not. Now, I admit I've never opened a car door for anyone else. Just seems kind of a waste of time and energy.
