You have every right to be upset. Definitely be direct with him about it. Sadly a lot of guys have to be told how to be thoughtful, so if you drill it in his head once hopefully he won't forget in the coming years. And if he acts all blase or rude about it, just take up jgreen on his offer.
Do you think anyone gives a **** when we men resent like hell all of the ridiculously contrived holidays created by advertising agencies? I swear, at least half of the US economy must thrive on the shameful amount of money spent on the moronic triumvirate of stupid spending reasons: contrived holidays, weddings, and babies. Women amaze me sometimes. Their general ability to multitask often makes me think they are far superior to men..........and then a new baby, a wedding, or a contrived holiday makes me do a 180 and think their collective brains have all leaked out of their collective ass cracks. Your husband hasn't forgotten your birthday. He just wants you to share in the resentment.
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I know he is leaving but this is madness... how can you get mad at him for forgetting your birthday a full two days before the date?!?! Let's discuss this on Monday
This is what I was thinking too. At least wait until he comes back from the trip, who knows, he could have something planned. Now if he comes back from the trip and does nothing, then yes, let him know how you feel. Someone earlier said it perfectly. We can't read your minds and if it was me I would want my significant other to tell me how she feels, so make it as clear and as simple as possible for him. Hopefully in the future he won't make the same mistake again now knowing how you feel. Good luck with this, hopefully after you speak with him it won't be an issue again, but at least give him until he returns from the trip before getting onto him. Let's see if he even bothers to call you on Sunday. Pugs
My best friend was really pissed when I forgot to buy him a gift for Best Friend's Day back in 2006. I still haven't spoken to him since.
Damn, a little early...If he does truly forget, shame on him...I don't get how people forget b-days or anniversary's...it only happens once a year and it's your loved one... Let's give him the benefit of the doubt as I would imagine that he learned his lesson years ago...I hope I'm right...
..what?? My take: I always do something or get something for my gf for her bday. She doesn't really do much or anything for me on mine cus I told her specifically I don't celebrate silly things like that. But on her bday, I take her out and buy her some stuff. She did agree with me when we were talking about how stupid these holidays and celebrations are. However I have never ever met a girl who doesn't like to be spoiled during her bday or vday. They all expect something, so I'm not taking any chances with that. It's a shame your husband doesn't realize this (assuming he really isn't gonna do anything). If nothing does happen, kick his ass and like fb said, take jgreen91's offer. Oh and in case I forget.. Happy early birthday!
Like most have said to let your husband know why you're upset and don't let it fester for the week that he's gone. From your description of what happened for his birthday, it sounds like he really let you know what he wanted and you provided that for him. You may have had to ask him what he wanted, but it sounds like he got what he wanted (and maybe more). Next year don't wait for him to ask you what you want and don't hope that he's paid attention to the hints that you've given about something that you might like. Tell him exactly what you want and then make the plans that you need to make to make it happen. Of course, you probably want him to be considerate and "know already" what you want, but he doesn't sound like that kind of guy. Say, 'I know that you're going to be out of town on my birthday, so I want to go out on Friday night to celebrate. We will go to my favorite restaurant first and then out to a movie (or whatever you want to do).' All he has to do is show up and enjoy your time together. On a positive note for this year, it sounds like he's very involved with your son and you should be thankful that he's taking such an active role as a father. Many fathers are too lazy to be active with their children.
is get over urself and grow up an option? thats the problem with you women today you are all attention whores that need to be cuddled and loved all the time. u were born its not an acomplishment and he already said happy birthday right?
How old are you? I'm not asking that question in a condescending way but i've known some guys who just find birthdays (in general) less and less important as they get older, as you can probably tell by some of the responses in this thread. Before you really get angry, you should try to determine if he does enough throughout the year to make up for not doing much on your b-day. Basically, does he cater to you throughout the year w/o doing much on your b-day as much or more than you do with special attention on his b-day. I look at b-days for my girlfriend as an excuse to do something nice for her, not an obligation. Meaning he should look to cater to you so much that YOU don't care about your birthday so much anymore. Now the manly answer: You should confront him about this during some of those things you did on his b-day. You probably won't have this problem again.
