If she finds out that you put her intimate communications out on the internet, you are really toast. But, anyway, I am of the opinion that if a relationship was really meant to work, it would have. People don't usually break up with the love of their lives.
Congratulations, Batman. I don't know if it's a coincidence, but your posts seem to have become less aggressive during that time as well. Good luck, Fatty.
Wow Fatty. This sucks for you. But she pretty much owned you in that email response. Maybe this is where you wake up tomorrow and completely change your life? Cut out the cigs completely, join a Gym and cut back big time on the drinking. No decent girl that you'd actually want to spend the rest of your life with would accept your current lifestyle and habits.
Seriously, who in the hell are you? How dare you judge me? This is the nth time I've seen you respond. I love judgemental people.
I'm not judging you. I'm offering you adivce which you asked for by starting a thread with personal details. My adivce to you is to change your lifestyle if you want a decent woman. Simple as that.
There's something to that. You can analyse a relationship to the point where it disappears. Personally, I like the comfortable silences from time to time, with the sly grin that comes before you start unbuttoning something. Even better, the answering sly grin when she reaches to take off your clothes.
How old is she? It does seem like she is playing mind games with you but if she really cared for you, she would have replied back to your messages after her last long message. You are 36 and I'm sure you have thought about your lifestyle and how it's affecting your relationships. There is nothing wrong about having that lifestyle if it is part of you but you should understand that a typical woman who is looking to settle down would want her boyfriend to cut back on drinking/smoking. Hang in there!
Sorry, FFB It sounds to me like you should let this one go, but that's a crap situation Keep your chin up, man
Sorry to hear about the frustration Fatty. I can understand that she is ready to settle down and it sounds like she cares about you... but for some reason it seems like she doesn't think you are ready to settle the same way she is. It also sounds like she's pretty set in her ways. And though I am not in a long term relationship I do know that its all about compromise to keep it working. At this point she doesn't sound ready to make those compromises with you. Hopefully if it's meant to be, your relationship I mean, something good will come out of your being honest. Either way it sounds like you were both really saying what you felt, which is always a good sign. Good luck!
I go on vacation and this is what I miss? noice... Sounds like she's in her late 20's, maybe very early 30's...She wants to settle down and have kids which you can't fault her for that...sorry dude, but she's really not that into you anymore... what's her number?
No, no, it's solid advice. Nothing shows a girl how much you care by telling her that if you can't have her, no one can. That's love.
Stop playing mind games. Deep down you need to ask yourself if you are capable of even having a relationship. You don't seem to love and respect yourself so how can you expect to love and respect anyone else. Start with a plant. Keep it alive for a year. In your case, a cactus. Try to stick with a mind and heart healthy diet for 6 months. And pray. In your case - all day.
The guy who said that women are hard wired for domestication is right. This chick just wants the guy that's going to be the best Dad and provider like 99.9% of all women. You can attract them with the rebel don't give a damn attitude but to keep them you have to be trainable and eventually tame. I know it sucks to feel the way you do right now believe me I've been there but you got to ask yourself honestly what you want and what will make you happy. If this girl is special they don't come around to often so some things are worth making the change for. Don't draw lines in the sand with this girl let her know you are willing to make some changes and who knows what could happen. Good luck!
It's hard to find someone who gets you even if you don't want to see it yourself. This girl completely has your number. It's no wonder you're head over heals. The question becomes: can you get beyond your own crazy to be with her or will that have to be reserved for the next one?
