What do you do? So I bumped into an ex last weekend. We haven't seen each other in 6 months. It was weird at first but I'd say we got along pretty well. We talked, danced, had drinks, and pretty much hung out together for the better part of the 3 hours that I was at the club. I eventually ended up taking her home. Nothing happened, I just dropped her off . The problem is, when we were dating I felt I was liking her too much/too early and that scared me. I know this might sound weird, but I felt outside of my comfort zone because I wasn't in control of my feelings. Strange huh? So I was standing by the bar about to order a drink and I catch her looking at me in the corner of my eye from across the bar. We stare at each other for a few seconds and I look away(playing it off cool, yet at the same time not sure if its her). I look back at her again and she's still looking at me with that gotdamn smile. So we stare at each other for a few more seconds and then I make my way over to her. I wasn't going to hang out with her all night(my plan was to meet some other girls that night ), but after our initial "How are you, how you been?" talk, I offered her a drink and it went from there. We went to a quieter area, and talked for a WHILE. Sorta cleared some stuff up about what happened between us but generally kept it very light. We then danced, and sipped on drinks all night. But I never tried to kiss her, I wasn't ready for that and what might come out of it. But we did our share of touching when we were dancing . I got her number again(deleted it previously), and gave her mine(I think she still had mine). Turns out we live very close to each other now so we took a cab together(Drinking and Driving is BAD) and I dropped her off. Now, for the past several days I keep thinking about her. I was over her but after seeing her all the emotions came back. Is this normal? And how do you act normal around someone who gives you the butterflies? the jitters? whatever?? I was sucking my rum-and-coke through the straw like one of those "need a moment" Twix commercials.
Yeah, it's normal to be nervous in a situation like this. So why did you guys break up in the first place? What happened?
LOL that's great So there were some question marks regarding our chemistry. Let me be more specific: phone chemistry. We just didn't have a lot to talk about. When we go on dates we always had a blast. Maybe because we were usually partying, but we always had so much fun around each other. On the phone not so much.
So can someone answer this question? And what should I do about this? Should I still call her? I'm undecided. I don't even know what to say. I'm so awkward.
Dude, if you want to see her again, call her. Think of it this way. You had a nice time, you really like being with her and obviously she still enjoys you. Where is the downside to this story? Commitment issues? Forget about it. Just call her. Edit: If you all don't have anything to talk about... keep doing things that you both like to do until you find common ground.
If you like her, get back with her. You guys obviously have chemistry. It's pretty simple- don't over think it.
Hmm, doesn't sound like you guys had a bad breakup if it was just lack of things in common. How long did you guys date?
What really sucks is bumping into an ex that had a great sex game. I have had that happen twice. I start reminiscing about that and I get goosebumps but that's as far as it goes. I am with someone that I have been with for 6 years and I am trying...trying my hardest not to mess it up.
Not that long. We were still getting to know each other. And I guess it kinda fell apart because we "lacked things in common". We both liked each other though, well I think she liked me. We dated for about two months end of last summer, and went out on about 5 dates; six if you count the last. And we took things REAL SLOW. No sex, NOTHING. Just made out alot. And DAMN she's a good kisser! Ooooh I feel like I'm in high school again.
If you don't have much in common just make up that time with lots of sex. Eventually you will have spent so much time together getting it on that common ground will be there and if not well at least you got laid a bunch of times with a chick you obviously think is hot.
Follow the few days rule (or whatever) then call her. Keep it casual. Figure out things to do that don't involve partying. If she's still interested in you, she'll go out with you, otherwise she'll make excuses. And if the latter happens, you know where you stand - alone. If she goes out with you, then you have some figuring out to do. At which point, you'll need to start a new thread and spill your guts some more.
There is a chemistry. That seems apparent from what you've described, but that is only a first step. You don't have to have everything in common at all, but you do have to have enough shared interests that you can enjoy doing activities together and have things to talk about. I wouldn't prematurely rule her out from having common interests. If you are really stuck on her and things seem to be going well in an ongoing fashion, then make an effort to try some of the things she likes, and get her to do the same. Maybe you will discover some common interests. Go into it expecting to find some common interests. Then if you don't, realize that you won't be bored and can do all the stuff you want if you just move on. That will help ease some of the sorrow/bitterness.
this thread would be ALOT more interesting if somewhere in the first post you said "then i took her back to my place and gave her the shocker"... but since you didn't, your not giving us very much to work with... have you called her back !?!?!
