You need to display the kind of confidence the Rockets had in Rodrick Rhodes when they took him in the first round. There were probably some variables that came into play, maybe you had swamp ass and you didn't notice, or perhaps you had some **** smeared on your forehead (IT Crowd anyone?) If you REEEEEEALLLLLYYYYYYYYY like her and you can't get over it, then you're going to have to puss out and tell her whats on your mind and you were just so overcome with desire that you had to express your deepest feelings physically since you are a man and thats how man do. that may work. If you aren't as into her as you may think, You need to weigh the consequences of missing many Rockets games in the future. At any rate you could always just whip it out and say "here it is, take it or leave it... one time offer" If she doesn't accept, she's obviously a w**** and you did the right thing.
Not to burst your bubble, but if she liked you, she would have kissed you. I don't mean to be a downer, but I don't know of any girl that doesn't at least test the waters if someone leans in for a kiss. If you really like her, and think the feeling is mutual, ask her. It's not like she can hurt you much more than she did shooting down your advance right? The only other option is if you tried groping her or some crap like that.. it could be you were moving too fast. In which case next time hand on cheek lean in slow for a brush, instead of attack mode.
Rodrick, can you at least tell us more about the actual date.....ie. setting, mood, topics of discussion, etc, etc........maybe this chick just likes to take it slow......also, a lot of girls like to be in control and decide on their own when/where/how the first kiss will be....
That only works if you're thadeus. True story: I once dated a man thrice without kissing him. The first date I wasn't sure, the second date I was pretty sure, and the third date sealed the deal - I wasn't into him in the slightest. But I did get 3 free dinners!
It's rare these days, but some girls play hard to get and won't kiss on the first date as a rule. It's part of the -game-. Here's a few tips. -Don't tell her how you 'feel'. This gives her hand. And we all know what that means. This is part of the -game-. -Ask her to lunch or a cup of coffee during the day. It's a more safe place for you guys to go to and she's more likely to say yes if she's on the fence. It's also more relaxed/casual, and best of all, if you're paying, it's cheaper. -Play it cool. Nonchalant is the word of the day if you see her again. Part of the -game-. Don't worry. You're a good-looking guy, you're smart and you're funny. If this one doesn't work out, go out and get a slump buster. Well, it was his fault after date #2 for not picking up on the signs. Was spending three evenings with some dullard worth the dinners? This is why I stopped 'dating' when I was single and just met women at the bar. Yes, I know, the quality may not have usually been there, but the payout was better and I got to hang out with my friends for most of the night first.
i considered being almu, but i'm not going to do that to this thread the date went like this. we met at my place at 7:45, cause it's on the way. drove to the bar, and got there just before tipoff. we spent most of the 1st quarter watching the game and just light conversation (mostly cause i didn't want to seem too in to her). by the middle of the 2nd quarter, when the rockets just kinda fell flat, i started to turn my attention more towards her. we spent basically the rest of the game talking to each other and playing (kinda high schoolish). by playing i mean i did the 3 mice story (blind, dumb, deaf trick where you draw lines on her arm) and she drew crap on me too. there certainly wasn't any groping going on, but i was moving her hair out of her face, and touching her arm the whole time, and by the end of the night we were sitting against each other, rather than having any space between us. i potentially could have kissed her there <- missed opportunity #1 so we leave the bar after the game ends, and come back to my place. she wanted me to teach her how to play guitar hero, cause she's seen it before but never actually played. we did that for awhile, and everything was going well. now that i think about it, i should have tried to kiss her then because she was sitting sideways on my lap. <- missed opportunity #2 that winds down, she says something about having to work in the morning, i say yeah me too, i'll walk you to your car. we get to her car, and we're hugging cause it's somewhat cold, but not a full embrace. she says it was fun, i run my hand through her hair, and try to pull her in for the kiss. she turned her head (if i had played it right i would have made a comment like "i wasn't trying to kiss you" or "look, there's something on your cheek.") i paused for a second, kissed her cheek, we hugged and talked for a minute more and then left. <- totally botched, probably pathetic attempt. now that i've slept it off, i'm beginning to go with the "not that in to you" opinions. i think i'll give her a couple of days, and see what happens next. also, allow me to throw this out there. i read through what i've written, and i sound like a 15 yr old inexperienced emo. this isn't my first rejection, and certainly won't be my last. there is just something different about this one. thanks for the comments thus far. and hayesfan, sorry for not listing you in with the couple of girls i requested advice from.
So on that same note, do girls in general like it better if you take it slow? Like, "respect them" and not just trying to chase some tail? Can they tell the difference if you genuinely like them or if you're trying to get laid? I ask because sex is not something I shy away from; I've had my share of one-night stands and many of my past relationships were very sex-oriented. But when I meet a girl I really like, I want to take it slow. Sex is not even what I'm really after.
Oh yeah, you're in. She gave you some good signs, and you know that. Maybe you missed out- Guitar Hero innuendo? But it seems like she likes you.
Just wondering. Did you ask her if you could kiss her and she said no? Did you lean in for a kiss and she turned away? Were you hugging her at the time or did you just suddenly try to swoop in? In my own experience I think its generally better to ask if you can kiss them rather than just suddenly swoop in or if they give you a hug and hold it for a little while then you do the look in her eyes and see if she's going to allow you to kiss her. I think even if a woman is interested the sudden kiss at the end of the date sometimes catches them too much by surprise and they will pull away. My advice is brush it off. This might hurt your own self-image as being a Cassanova but if your ego is that fragile you're going to have a lot more trouble in the future. If you really like this woman then play it off lightly next time you see her, heck even apologize for getting too caught up in her beautiful eyes so that you weren't quite the gentleman that you really are. If you obsess about this and act hurt and bitter around her any chance you have with her is probably going to be gone. That's my two cents for what its worth.
The date sounds like she was into you so I would rule out that potential problem. She might just be someone who's had a rough experience recently or something like that and suddenly got nervous or whatever. I wouldn't break down and tell her you want to spend the rest of your life with her though lol. Just go on another date, see how things go. This time if all goes well, intentionally kiss her on the cheek at the end instead of going for the full kiss. That'll throw her off.
