How to get more alone time without upsetting the GF...?

Most people probably think you're kidding, but it's actually very effective.

Depending on what you have for dinner, it can be VERY effective.

 

Baiter speaks the truth.

She may feel you are rejecting her on some level. You'll need to find a way to appease that insecurity without resenting your time together.

Good luck.

 

Axl Rose said it best, "I used to love her but I had to kill her."

 

If he would have just farted into the phone all of this would have been avoided.

You've got to know when to hold them...

 

Agree.

I always save my fart... just in case of emergency.

 

you just want more time alone to watch rockets highlights and play smash bros brawl. haha.

but yeah man, I know exactly what you're going through. I'd tell you to be honest, but that burned me pretty bad. Goodluck with whatever is your decision.

 

Regarding your situation, wouldn't it be a little more complex and painful if you had a live-in girlfriend? Total opposite because you're alone time would be scarce especially if you like to spend that time at your place.

If you break it off, there would be a lot of stuff you would probably worry and think about especially if you're that "NICE" guy.
EX) Does she have a place to live since its your place? Does she have friends or best friend to confide in and vent her sadness? Does she have stable income to support herself?

At least if she has her own place, you wouldn't have to worry as much. Oh, you can always change your key lock.

One more thing, since you mentioned that you don't engage in a lot of relationships and the last few have been long-term, are you ready to be alone again? Or are you not telling us more info such as....maybe there is another girl in the picture? That makes a difference too. Negatives in your current GF might seem gigantic when you meet another girl who is everything your GF isn't....my .02

 

Lie and say you're doing other stuff. If she's gonna freak out if you're honest, if she ever catches you in a lie then just turn it back around and start blaming her and say you're the one who is upset.

It's evil and it's wrong but why the hell not?

 

Dude, you need to nip this in the bud. Because the girls that need attention, they get attention one way or another.

If you don't face this head on, and find ways that she can spend her time entertaining herself, you're looking for trouble. Eventually she'll stop complaining, and in fact she'll be the one making excuses for time spent together. When that happens, she's probably spending her time doin' some other guy(s).

 

The honest approach is best. Emotional instability isn't something you can board up and wait for sunny skies.

If you stick to your boundaries, she might even respect you for it.

 

100% agreed. good advice man.

 

OK i have the same problem........i just do something nice and say im going over to so and so's house........But nothing works....she will still b****........Females are one of a kind........Kind of annoying

 

Her "You just want to get rid of me" and "I just want someone who wants me comments" say a lot. She's been through a lot but she's got a lot of insecurity right now and she really needs to be constantly reassured you aren't losing interest in her. Her instability can be corrected with you stability. As long as you tell her how you feel she'll at least know where you're coming from, and she will deal with it.

As GlassHalfFull said, you are doing more harm to her by masking your true feelings than by getting them out in the open. Believe me I know its tough to say something that is going to hurt your girlfriend's feelings, but I also believe that honesty and communication lead to a deeper trust and eventually a strong relationship. Think of it as building a solid foundation.

I believe having some alone time is part of what makes a relationship work. I usually see my girlfriend about 4-5 days and nights out of the week, and that works well for us right now. I do miss her company, but I also like to get out do things by myself from time to time, and she has her obligations to her family and friends too. We are at the point now where we can be with each other but not have to constantly acknowledge the other's presence, like I'll go on the computer and while she watches TV in the other room or something.

Its all about finding a healthy balance really.

and yes, fart a lot.

 

There really is no safe answer...A friend of mine is the same way...Example, her way of thinking is to be with that person 100% of the time..She doesn't go out without him and she expects the same (recently divorced)...That doesn't work with me I've been divorced almost 3 years and I like my alone time...

However, I find myself wanting less and less of it with this girl I'm seeing...not sure if its b/c of the bedroom, but more than likely yes... But I digress...The point is, guys are different that girls, I know big shock...Women need that to feel wanted/appreciated and loved, but not all women...I would rather want to hear my significant other tell me that she wants to be with me than not...

Don't lie as little lies turn into big lies...Just be honest and say you need some alone time...If she pitches a big azz fit, then you''ll know you're stuck like Chuck...

 

You sound too nice and she sounds kinda selfish and needy the way she seems unable to recognize your point of view. If you wanna have your own time then she's gotta just accept this and respect your wishes. Trying to control someone else's day by imposing your presence on them is not cool.

She needs to go get a hamster or sewing machine or something to keep her occupied during the day.

 

Turn gay and go out with a dude because that's how women roll.....

Most women are not happy unless they are unhappy. Enjoy the ride, pun intended, until it's over.

 

Imagine if she meets a guy that will give her the attention that she wants .

 

she is right...