[Virginity] Play the waiting game or give it up ASAP?

You should wait until the right moment for you. Unless you are waiting for moral or religious reasons, don't just assume marriage is the "right time" to lose it. You may meet a girl that you are genuinely in love with, have a great relationship with, but the stars don't align correctly and it doesn't end in marriage. Sex with her might be the "right time" for you. Just something to think about.

 

So is this "Never Been Kissed" or "40 Year Old Virgin"?

Or is it "This One Time I Got a Tug Job in a Girl in Middle School's Room"?

 

You know, I got a former roommate just like you. Pretty cool guy, definitely not ugly or anything... just didn't really know how to approach/talk to girls. He used to get reeeaaallly pissed at me sophomore year because I'd have a date with a different girl every weekend, and he couldn't seem to get one.

Just realize that asking a girl out isn't a big deal. No one's gonna make fun of you for asking a hot girl out and getting rejected. It's happened to everybody.

And, IMO, no sex and freedom is a lot better than sex and being at the whim of a psycho b****. So stay strong.

 

Not having sex with a woman is gay

 

I HAD SEX THIS MORNING BEFORE WORK.

 

Then I guess you're gay.


OOOHHHHHHHHHHHSSSSNNNNNAAAAPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!

 

I have rugburns on my knees from having sex on carpet this weekend.

We are pretty cool dudes.

 

I'd watch out for guys who had rug burns on their elbows.

 

Noice.

 

A woman is not a piece of property that you purchase or lease for 5 years, or something you can ride to your destination whenever you have a need to.

 

Fo realz?

 

I don't see what the big deal is... It's just some skin in skin.

 

That's how I feel.

 

Exactly. Great post. To the thread starter, it is very admirable that you want to save yourself for the right woman; however, expecting her to be a virgin herself might be a little unrealistic. If you really feel that way, you automatically disqualify all the women who have been married before and are now single. If I had that stipulation, then I would have never met my wife and that would have been a big, big, big mistake on my part. In the end, you have to do what you feel is the right thing in your heart and it has to be something you can live with.

And this may shock some people, but I didn't wait to have sex until the night of my wedding. My wife and me made love about a week before we got married (yes we were engaged). I remember she was so worried that I would be upset with her for pushing that before we were actually married. I was like "well we are going to be together for the rest of our lives, so why does it matter that we jumped the gun a little bit?"

And I think it is a myth that if you are a virgin, you'll suck in the bedroom. Granted, you shouldn't expect to be Ron Jeremy or anyone like that, but if you have a partner that loves you, no matter what, they will be patient with you and probably help you on this. Honestly, it isn't rocket science and if I can figure it out - anyone can, seriously.

 

Silence is Golden..... Let the penis and the vagina do the talking... That would be the world I'd like to live one day, or better yet.... I'd like to meet a girl whose just like Helen Keller but looks like Helena Bonham Carter... It all works out for me because i don't have to talk at all and just use my hands which I'm already good at....

 

40 year old virgin

 

Tell that to the child you create, or the doctor when you have an infection, or your partner when you have a guilty feeling and no longer talk to them.


BTW - Major Malcontent, I don't go around here addressing you by your career or profession... so why the derogatory insinuation about mine?


And also for the record, I had plenty opportunity to get "busy" with more than one young lady in my day... trust me. Plenty. I know what a girl undressing in your presence, in a room alone no less, means...

I simply chose not to damage someone else's wife when I knew I wasn't her husband.

So I chose on much more than "religious" grounds... shoot, at the time, I was not even considering "ministry" as a path... by no means. I'd given up on that for a while after my Mom passed.

But for those that claim the only way, or reason, someone can be a virgin for a longer than usual period in life is for, or due to, their ugliness... get real.

And get over yourselves. Just because you put your man-junk in a female's special place doesn't mean you are some kind of stud... it means you've successfully completed one the most basic, crude, and primordial instinctive acts that a human could achieve. It does not mean you are attractive. It does mean you found another person to cooperate (so long as it's a legal, consensual act) with you. It merely means you know how to make babies. It just means you've observed enough health class to put "2 and 2" together.

Sex does not equal love... and love does not equal sex. But I'll tell you this, for all the attempts in my youth at finding sex, it was a realization of the lack of love involved in the moment that kept me from following through.

Not beauty or looks, or a lack of "game."

If a girl whispers in your ear in a crowded place, and you go to another secluded spot and she begins to undress... you've got game.

It takes a bigger man to not take advantage of that girl.

Trust me.

And with that said, and the numerous times that happened in my teen years (no joke -girl's like DJ's) - I'm satisfied PERSONALLY knowing that I resisted counterfeit offers and waited for my wife.

I will not apologize for that.

I'll admit... it takes some big cajones to "do the do" outside of marriage, with all the uncertainty and risk. But I'd venture a declaration that it takes bigger ones to wait until marriage.

Think about it.

 

No...

But I do buy a steak without a test bite.

 

Nothing derogatory was meant. I like you, I respect the clergy. Sorry if I poorly expressed myself.

I was just expressing my opinion that its hard to say vanilla ice cream is better than chocolate ice cream without tasting both. The nature of this particular beast is you can't both wait for marriage and not wait for marriage. You can have opinions based on people who have had chocolate ice cream and what you know of their experience. You can have tasted vanilla ice cream and feel that after tasting it, that its by far superior to any allure chocolate ice cream might have.

Anyway I am really sorry that I offended. I certainly wasn't implying you were just a preacher-bot..you seem like a well rounded guy.

As it happens I am not a man who engages in sexual relations with women just to satsfy my basic, crude or instinctive urges. I have, with one exception, loved..respected and cared deeply for every woman I have ever been intimate with.

I am 37 and am in no financial or emotional position to care for a wife, much less children. You may find that sad, but I am not ashamed of my self awareness.

I am sure you had ample opportunities to do what I have done, just as I have had ample opportunities to marry a woman who would be as good to me as your wife is to you.

Again sorry that I offended.