[Virginity] Play the waiting game or give it up ASAP?

And if you can't find a person to have sex with, find a pumpkin. Pumpkins. Warm, soft, damp, with seeds inside, so round --

And if you can't find a pumpkin this time of year. something alive ... something that moves, that's warm, that looks you in the eyes. Something with a soul --- a sheep. A beautiful little sheep.

 

Same, lulz

 

IROC it, great post ... thank you so much.

 

I figured that by the time I met my first boyfriend he'd have been around the block a few times. Turns out when I met someone, he was a virgin as well. I wouldn't have looked down on him if I had found out there were girls in his past, but it just turned out this way. We're very happy and very glad we "waited" for each other in a sense, it does seem special to us. I'd say, if you feel this way, wait until you find a girl that you could see yourself spending the rest of your life with. But the two of you shouldn't feel spiritually tortured because of an obligation to wait til marriage.

 

sigh...these threads depress me...

 

if you're desperate... may i introduce to you...





Brothel House

 

Okay, so I had over 30 sex partners before I got married, so I'm not the best example of a puritan...but here are Some interesting facts:

A married couple who were virgins when they marry:

60-70% LESSS likely to divorce than a couple who had sex before they were married

Have sex more frequently than the average married couple who were not virgins when they got married

Are less likely to have infidelity in their marriage

Just something to think about

 

Being a virgin will suck for your wife on your honeymoon. You will be a minute man the whole time.

 

Facts?

 

Yeah... what's your source, DFWRocket? I'm not saying that stuff doesn't make sense, but where exactly did you come by those tidbits?

 

Yeah, I nail . . . big whoop wanna fight about it?

I respect everyone and their decisions. I have this one friend that any girl would pay to nail and he won't until marriage. I rag him and call him a p***y, but I still respect his decision.

I just don't get what the big damn deal is. Stick your wang in the hole.

Or if you prefer, stick your wang in the other hole, now you got a tootsie roll.

 

Probably because people who wait or more likely to not have sex because they are weird or funny looking. They probably never had a chance before they found that one person as weird and ugly as them.

I know this is a stupid argument, you don't have to tell me.

 

I've read something like that before and the explanation given was that they usually have religious reasons for waiting which means they are more likely to try and work out whatever problem they have than just jumping to divorce.

 

I've seen these kind of statements in studies before. Especially ones used by groups, like religious organizations, that promote abstinence and safe sex.

This is basically what it always boils down to. If you value marriage, family, and commitment. Instead of experimentation and self discovery. Which just leads to people settling down anyways...

If a person wants to gain life experience through the institution of marriage, being a virgin makes plenty sense. Cuz you're "giving up" something to the person you find special...And both people will more than likely be more disciplined with themselves to not give into the world's temptations.

 

...and the funny part is, while I'm a proponent of at least keeping sexual partners to a minimum, you really can't discount that point completely.

Some people are ugly as hell, and I can see how it might be hard for them to find someone who sexually desires them. I honestly feel bad for them, but I'm also real glad I'm not one of them. I don't think I'm great-looking, but I ain't ugly. I thank the fates for that.

Life just ain't fair sometimes...

Yeah, pretty much. I agree with the views that those numbers espouse, but there seems to be an unspoken assumption that there are no other variables that matter in that equation besides the fact that they just happen to be virgins. You've gotta check behind the numbers for reasons, and not rely solely on correlations. Heck, staying married doesn't necessarily equal happiness.

That said, my own experiences tell me that people who didn't have tons of partners before they got married tend to be more likely to STAY happily married.

 

Yeah, I'm not surprised coming for a guy who created this thread

 

hey... been busy and just saw this thread. Count me as another of the ladies who thinks that waiting is one of the sweetest things a guy can do. It is possible, and even though no one's perfect it's a lot better to do it that way than the other way around. There are also other people like you.

I waited until I was married; the marriage did not work out (and no, we didn't just rush into it for the sex) and I feel bad about that, but I guess that's where we can't be perfect. (This is not to say you should just marry the person you want to screw and divorce them when you're ready to break up - not how it works. I wanted out of my marriage a few years before I actually did it.) My boyfriend and I now do not go all the way. We are saving that for when we get married, and that will be his first time. I've enjoyed my "born again virgin" status that I've had for over two years now. I just don't like feeling like a slut.

In the course of a relationship, you and your partner will do at least some other stuff and play around with sensual feelings. (It does not have to go as far as oral, like some people mentioned - honestly, just do it if you're going to do that.) If the bond between you is real, you will find a way to be "sexually compatible", because you will discover what you like together, instead of spending too much time with other people beforehand and knowing what your specific idea of a good time is and just hoping the person fulfills it. Most people are blessed with plenty of hormones and emotions and can make something work, especially if they are both considering the other person's feelings at the time instead of their own.

So, stay strong... you had the right idea all along.

 

I think I'm heading the 40 yr old virgin route... I'm Not a Mormon or a Catholic.... I just don't have good game... I see someone i like and i turned into a silent movie from the 30's.... Just mannerism and a long blank stare....
Masturbation on the other hand (literally) is on a whole other level... I'm the Wilt Chamberlain of hand abuse....

 

...the brilliant thing about this post is that I can't tell at all if you're being serious or not...

 

Yeah dude, I'm serious... I'm 27.... I don't have any disorders or anything and I'm pretty normal kind of guy... I like playing games,watching movies,rockets..... Maybe i need to get out more...