A guy I grew up with passed away last week and his funeral was Saturday, I didn't attend. This guy would terrorize me as a kid and actually beat me up a few times on my way home from school. My questions are: 1. If you were a bully in school do you feel remorse? Would you like to apologize to the people you intimidated? 2. If you were bullied, do you still hold it against your intimidators?
This is a great question. I was neither a bully nor really bullied..... Laughter was always the way around being bullied for me. DD
i was bullied. had no confidence and low self esteem b/c of it. but things have changed for the better. no one ****s with me now b/c i break them.
Good subject! I was bullied by a few guys in Jr. High. One of them actually wrote 'f*uck' on the back of my brand new jacket. We were poor so I had to walk around with a faint 'f*uck' on the back of the jacket for the year. I got pretty big by the time I hit high school so I didn't get picked on. I saw that guy when I was in my early 20's and punched him. He ran off before I could hit him again. I wouldn't worry about it now though. I bullied one kid for a few days when I was a kid. I still feel a little bad about it and if I ever saw him again I would apologize.
I was bullied until I hit a growth spurt - then I did a little bullying. Now I am only a bully when I see easy prey attempt to drive down the lane against me ... no offense macalu
I was bullied off and on until the 9th grade. I don't hold any bad feelings for the one's who did it, but I do get extremely pissed off when I see anyone getting bullied around these days, and you still do see it from time to time. Quite frankly, I'll only pick on people these days if I see them picking on someone else.
There were 3 non-black kids in my junior high class. The other two were girls, what do you think? wasn't bullied or bullied anyone in elementary school.
I was bullied. Ummm... I think I am STILL bullied... people make me answer in threads where I don't want to. First thing that came to my mind as I read your post. I have no remorse. In fact, I am glad they bullied me. This made me stron... oh, who am I kidding... I am still a weakling.
im going to go out on a limb and guess that the only bullying done by most people on this internet message board is done on this message board.
There was one kid that my group of friends grew up close to (same neighborhood, same little league teams, etc.) that we made fun of quite a bit. This kid's mother was so over-protective and no matter what our intentions were, she was always suspicious of people being nice to her sons, so we jumped on that. It didn't help matters for him that he was a huge dork. We'd wrap his house on Halloween and set off Black Cats in front of his house. Crap like that. We never made it too personal and we considered him one of our friends, just that friend that we picked on. If we saw anyone else doing it, we'd step up for him. We were friends from kindergarden until about sophomore year when we finally went our separate ways with new friends. Fast forward to last week. I was cleaning out my closet while my girlfriend was watching television when I came across my seventh grade yearbook. She was flipping through it when she yelled "holy ****, that's Griffin!". Turns out, her ex and my old friend were frat brothers at A&M and still very good friends (he's actually one of my girlfriend's friends on MySpace). The first thing she asked me, "was he as big a dork in high school as he is now?" Some things never change. My dilemma now is whether I should contact him. I could see him thinking it was cool to hear from me, but I could also see him not wanting to hear from me at all. Then add in the awkwardness of me dating one of his best friend's exes (and the guy apparently didn't want things to end) and I really don't know what to do. I would like to talk to him.
Without knowing your race I don't know if you were the black bully or the non-black kid being bullied.
I'm Chinese. The bullying neevr got overboard, most of them liked me enough since I gave out answers during test time. Well this one time, the 16 year old in my 7th grade class almost choked me out because I found a phone card that he wanted. He coulda just asked nicely, I wouldn't have said no to him (he was VERY big).
I was always a big kid, and pretty strong, so I wasn't bullied much. That being said, because I was a sensitive kid who would get mad easily, I'd always catch the taunting from the ones who liked to pick fights. I had some knock-down, drag-outs during middle-school and as a freshman in high school. When I started boxing as an outlet, I learned to blow it off, and the picking fights stopped.
I say call him to clear the air. He probably won't admit that it ever bothered him but to extend to him the courtesy of wanting to make it right would be a very cool thing.
to the OP: i see you're from the houston area. would that be humble more specifically? i ask b/c a kid who graduated in 03 from humble high school committed suicide recently. thought maybe this was who you were talking about. i didn't know the guy personally, but i knew of the guy.
