aww u shouldnt be so hard on him, i just left mine a cpl days ago and im pretty much goin through the same thing. Best thing for you bro is to stay busy and go out. turn that phone off at night and just ignore her calls. shoot im actually glad i have overtime and finals this month.
I agree, but i also gotta say that there's a ton of others just like her out there.....can't say what percentage, but i've had to listen to so many stories from so many friends almost verbatim like this one or even worse......it's really bad that i'm never surprised by what i hear/read anymore
i agree with everyone else...i feel bad for you but i promise it will get better. i dated my ex for like 6 years on and off and i have never been happier the last day i walked away from him. i should've cut it off like 2 months after we started dating, but that didn't happen. cut your losses and move on. i met a great guy and just got married last month!! just know what types of traits you'd like to avoid in the next girl. also, all the people saying the girl was a "b!tch," keep in mind it happens the other way too with guys cheating on girls so watch what you say. then again, i think we call them a$$es. just saying, guys and girls both cheat so it's not one sided.
sorry, man. that's so *****y best of luck getting through the rough months to come. She sounds like a terrible person now
They didn't say ALL women are "b!tches"... he said this particular one was. No one is claiming that men aren't the same way, or aren't capable of the same. She was pretty mean though.
yea, this thread could easily be titled, "How to Not Continue a Relationship". but i know it's not that easy to let go of someone you've been with that long.
I agree with this. I think many people get together and one or sometimes even both have major flaws that are hard to overcome. Some people can deal with it and they stick it out; others can't and they get out. The only problem is that if you do decide to stick it out and it becomes too much for you, you wonder how much of your life you wasted by trying to change someone into something they can't be.
Whoot there it is she would have instantly went from THE LOVE OF MY LIFE to THAT CHICK I AN DOING UNTIL I FIND SOMEONE ELSE Rocket River
you have an incredible ability to step on people when they pour out personal stories on this site. I never thought i would have the ability to find the biggest jerk on this site but you win buddy. its actually pretty sad that you have to be so damn judgemental in these threads, its clue to your personal feelings about yourself.
Indeed. The scary thing for me is that in some sick kinda way, it coulda worked out. I'm extremely giving, and was at my happiest when I was waiting hand and foot on her. I told her I just needed to put that on hold for one semester because I simply didn't have a minute to spare. I needed to work constantly so I would be able to pay off all her debt, pay all her living expenses, etc. as soon as I got out of school. All along I knew she was selfish, but I never imagined she was so selfish that she couldn't handle a mere four months of putting her selfish desires on hold, even knowing that she'd have it made for the forseeable future after that. I was very close to throwing away all my money and time and effort for someone who apparently didn't appreciate it and took it as a given. That sure woulda sucked. I'm sure there are elements of this in your situation too, cj. The whole thing sucks a whole helluva lot right now, but eventually you'll realize how lucky you are not to be chained to someone who doesn't appreciate all you do for them.
im just giving him a pep talk. he is being too nice though. what she did was majorly messed up. he should be happy that its finally over. Forget the time lost, enjoy the time now.
Sorry to hear that man. Sounds like she is stringing you along…keeping the friendship open cuz she knows you still want her. You gotta be strong and walk away. I can understand how some can forgive after someone cheats, but if you have to plead with someone to lose contact with a person that they cheated with then it’s a clear sign that they aren’t that interested.
Sorry to say she knew you was a sucka after you took her back for the reunion thing. If she came back with no feeling of consequence, or actually thinking she could lose you, she has no reason to feel bad, thus doing it again is not really a problem for her. Oh, and she'll be back again probably, because she knows you'll take her back in any condition.
Sick situation indeed. You should consider counseling at some point, unless you want your future relationships to turn out the same way.
I have to agree. Its easy to look from the outside and say the right thing to do was to kick someone to the curb right when you find out they cheated. 6 years is a long time.. I can imagine its not so easy moving cold turkey from someone's thats been there so long. BUT the right answer is clear. Once she's cheated, shes gone. People on this board seem agree. It'll just take CJ some time to see the light understandibly, considering the length of his relationship. Goodluck man! Fast beer and Rockets win over Phoenix tonight will get ya started
man this sucks! especially since its so close to the holidays. i feel for you man. just keep your head up. theres someone out there who is more deserving of your time. make sure you get out. dont sit alone at home drinking in the dark. its not good for you, i know from experience. if you really wanna get back at her, start dating her sister or best friend or cousin...
i think the moral of the story is never to truly trust a woman to go out on her for events where she might meet men or men she has previously dated. i always believed in given women enough freedom to go to the night club with friends, but i soon found out that was a stupid idea.
