You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it to drink water... You can show him the way but you can't make him to quit...people have to help themselves first before people can help them.
Yes, I have. THE ENTIRE THING. Forwards and backwards. More than twice. Have YOU? WTF does that have to do with your method of making someone stop doing something? I don't get it.
That's how I'll discipline my own kids. Edited to add...WTF, you've seen it more than twice? Why? And why brag about that?
Every time a friend of mine smokes I always say, "hey don't you know that smoking kills?" and follow it up with "haven't you seen the commercials?" That ALWAYS pisses them off or at the very least irritates them. Does your dad approve if you smoke? If he doesn't then tell him you're gonna smoke too and f*ck your lungs away if he doesn't stop. My dad was a heavy smoker before I was born, then right before I popped out he got deathly ill and the doc said it was due to smoking--iono if the doc was bsing or telling the truth just to get my dad to stop smoking--and my dad has never touched another cig in his life for decades now.
It usually takes a scare of some sort to get smokers to quit. Fatty may have had a recent scare with his testicle. Is is possible that fatty is considering quitting? Possibly. Some people live only in the present. If nothing is wrong with them, then they continue living the way they live. Others believe in preventative maintenance. We do things to protect our bodies so that we don't have problems down the road. If you don't have your health, then you have nothing.
You'll discipline your kids by showing them the video, or making them to do the things that they do in the video? Which one is it? Either way, I don't see how that's DISCIPLINING your kids. I said "more than twice" just to show you it didn't make a dent on me... but I wasn't bragging.
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The smoker may have to learn on his own. One day back in 1998, my dad puked up a huge amount of blood. I thought he was dying right in front of me. I went into the other room and lost it. He hasn't smoked since. But he's addicted to the gum. Which I guess isn't a bad thing.
Pretty much. I know a woman that has smoker's cough, breathing problems, can detests how her cigarettes make her breath stink and clothes stink. But she smokes almost a pack a day.
some people here seem to think that these symptoms and her smoking addiction are complete coincidences... those people are probably addicted to smoking themselves and cant see that it is a life-ending habit... yes, it is their right as Americans and civil libertarians and blah blah blah freedom blah blah blah... but it is hurting other people directly and indirectly
Its real hard to make someone quit. Both my bestfriends smoke and theyre proud of me for quitting. Hell, they even try to quit but they just can't. If anything, tell them to set small goals. I quit cold turkey after new years (and yeah it might not mean much to ya'll but almost 1 year for me is pretty awesome). I made the resolution, smoked as much before midnight, then just told everyone afterwards I was done with smoking, to not ask me for any smokes, and to never give me one even if I wanted one real bad. Then I set dates to pass to not smoke, like pass the first week, done. Then march, done. Then after playoffs (ugh...rough first round exit) and I made it through, and so forth. Now we're approaching the end of the year and I still think about it, but I never want to pick it back up. It'll just ruin my next goal which I've worked hard for. May seem extremly cheesy but it works. Goodluck!
Smoked for a few years took about 30 quits for it to stick. whyquit.com is a cold turkey knowledge based site/forum that helped me through some tough cravings. Here is an example thread topic written by a member of the board. Been out of town for a couple of days. The last half of yesterday contained a steady stream of craves. I think it started when I was in the lab all day, and hadn't had any water the entire day. I'd started with a cup of coffee in the morning, and that and a donut was all I'd had to eat or drink until like 3:30 pm. I was dehydrated and hungry, and I got this familiar taste in my mouth as I got in my car for the drive home. Not a good taste, and one that was DEFINITELY associated with smoking. My guess is that because I would often get into that work groove in the past where food and drink took a back seat, that when my body ran low on supplies, I turned to cigarettes (associating all biological craves with the cigarette crave). Anyhow, from that point until bedtime, I didn't feel like an ex-smoker creeping up on 2 weeks, but like a smoker who was denying his craves. I tried most of my crave/urges defenses I've learned here, but it was like there was 2 of me. The talkative, educated side of me speaking a long monologue of defenses, and the junky, who just really wasn't in the mood to hear. In fact, I felt like I was the junky, and the voice of the reasonable side sounded distant and far away. At this point I realized that yesterday at least, the defenses and the celebrations of being nicotine free and all the joys that entails just weren't going to offer any comfort. And, I think that's what I was looking for. I wanted to feel better. I wanted to feel like the positive empowered person I've generally been since about day 6. But, it just wasn't going to happen. I heard the reasons, but they didn't sink past the outer levels of my reasoning. SO, I resigned myself to the fact that yesterday wasn't going to be fun. Reached in the pocket, and pulled out the trump card -- "I ain't gonna smoke today," I said. Simple, effective. It doesn't matter that my junky mind is (for the moment) winning the debate over how good or bad cigarettes taste, and over how good or bad the experience of smoking is, my reasonable ex-smoker side has veto power. Since quitting, that side took custody of my wallet, hands and mouth. Without those 3 assets, the junky side has only the power to make me feel rotten; but not to relapse. The reasonable side knew that "I ain't gonna smoke today" was the final word, and spoke it. End of debate. Like a parent to an unreasonable child throwing a tantrum, "BECAUSE I SAID SO!". So, the junky sulked for the rest of the night, screaming, and stomping and generally annoying me, but had no power to touch my quit. The site also has a bunch of videos including one for each day of a young quit attempt. Srry for such a long post, but helping one person quit smoking is worth a flame or too.
rofl! I am probably going to go to hell for laughing at this but oh well. Oh and to the thread starter, I would definitely NOT recommend getting Fatty FatBastard to talk to your dad. But then again, if FFB did talk to him, maybe your dad would quit. Seriously, sorry that you are having to deal with that. My sister and brother-in-law smoke and it sucks. I think my sister has finally quit since she had her first child over a year ago, but she will probably get started again.
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Most people who smoke, as WildSweet&Cool wisely and completely-objectively pointed out, are inherently evil and do not care about your feelings, or your well-being. Trying to convince them to do anything for your sake won't work, because only very selfish (and possibly sexually-perverted) people will even start smoking in the first place. The trick is to convince him that, by QUITTING smoking, he'll reap far more destruction on humanity. Tell him that for each hour that goes by without him smoking, a little puppy gets stomped to death by a fat woman in high heels. Man, he'll throw his cigarettes away immediately. Because he's evil. It's reverse psychology against evil people. Until then, you should feel free to be as insulting as possible towards him, and to consider yourself to be a much better human being than he is (you can tell him that too).
