Okay after seeing a couple of threads about women in the last couple of days, I want to know what type of criteria do you have in dating girls/women. I'm talking about stuff like this: 1) Same type of education as you or not 2) Same type of religion...and if so, same denomination 3) How much does physical things account for? 4) What about divorced women that have children, divorced women that do not have children, and women who have never been married but have children 5) Date a smoker or not...what about a drinker or not? 6) Open to blind dates? 7) Finally, would it bother you if the girl you are dating is making more money than you....would you refuse to go out with her? For me personally, I'm pretty picky but I would answer like this: 1) This is almost essential for me. I wouldn't say no to dating someone who is just a high school graduate, but I think it would make things hard for a real relationship to develop. Having at least gone to college, i.e. some college would be okay. 2) I used to think that this wouldn't be a big deal, but after the last relationship I had, I found out it was. Dating someone who is not Episcopalian but firmly rooted as a Baptist, Church of Christ, Catholic, etc. or not even a Christian..i.e. another religion like Islam or Judaism not atheism would be tough. I would almost date someone who is really not committed in going to church in the hopes that I could eventually get her interested in it. Don't get me wrong...it's not pushing or forcing something on someone. I will say this though - I don't think it's right to expect someone who has been Baptist all their lives to leave their church and start going to your church. I don't think that I could date a non-Christian unless they were willing to give Christianity a try. Before people give me a hard time, when I decide to date someone, I want it to be someone that I could see myself marrying. Considering that my mother goes to church with me every Sunday while my father stays at home (has for the last 20+ plus years) I know firsthand how difficult that situation could be. If I am able to get married, I don't want to go to separate churches from my wife or her not go altogether. I want a stable family as much as possible (I'm not saying that my family is unstable...just not close-knit). 3) To me physical things do mean something. I have tried dating girls that I wasn't physically attracted to because I knew they liked me hoping that I would become attracted to them. It didn't work. I think that you have to feel some physical attraction in order for the relationship to become something more. 4) I have dated a divorced woman who had 2 children and I don't think that I could ever do that again. I would want it to be just me and her and then maybe later like in 2 or 3 years...if we get married, kids. Dating someone who is divorced but has no kids would be okay as long as I knew that the ex was completely out of the picture. I don't think that I could date someone who has never been married but has kids mainly because of the same reason for the one that is divorced and has kids. However, never say never. 5) I would like for them not to smoke, but there's no way that I could date an alcoholic. It would be too much "high-maintenance" work and my dad's dad died of alcoholism, so that would bring back bad memories for my family. 6) Blind dates are okay, but I would only do them if I really didn't have anything else to do. Nothing's worse than when you are excited about it and then you meet the person and find out that you have no physical attraction to this girl. I always try to get a picture of what she looks like to know what to expect. I guess you could say then that is not a blind date, but it's tough to go out with someone that you don't even know what they look like. 7) It probably wouldn't bother me too much..depends on how much more she is making than me. My ego would probably take a beating but if she fits all the other criteria, then I would overlook it. You can answer the questions that I posted above or you can tell me your own criteria. You can even tell past experiences when you went out on dates, especially blind dates.
She can not kiss me with her wide-open mouth completely encircling my mouth...stabbing a tongue at me. wow...that has got to be the definition of the worst kiss. And to think many young boys must think girls like that. I gained a new appreciation for why 16 yr old girls freak out so much about life. How would you view your gender's role in sex if the first one or two or 6 boys you kissed did that to you? *shivers*
Willing to date me. That's pretty much all I ask. Seriously, though: 1) Education is important, though someone without a college degree is not necessarily undateable to me. Intelligence is more important than formal education. 2) Don't care at all about religion. 3) Physical attraction is important to me, too. Of course, I have to find women I'm attracted to who don't have all that high standards for their men. Those women are relatively rare. 4) Being divorced myself, I don't mind divorced women. I also don't mind kids at all (I have two sons myself). 5) Prefer non-smokers, though I have gone out with smokers. I don't think I could go out with them long, though. I don't mind social drinkers, but someone who drinks a lot is probably not going to get along with me since I rarely drink. 6) I'm open to blind dates and have had some that went okay. 7) I certainly don't care if the woman I date makes more money than I do. I have expensive tastes, I probably need a woman who makes more than I do. Seriously, though, it would not bother me at all to date a woman who made more money than I do even if it was significantly more. The amount of money I make has no relation to my ego or my sense of self-worth.
Not that much of a criteria, I wouldn't date someone that couldn't get past the 8th grade, but just because they didn't get University, or other type of post-high school education I wouldn't rule out dating them. No bearing at all, of course if she was a different religion and she meet my father she would have to be able to handle his tormenting of the fact she is a different religion (all in jest of course) She would ahve to be fairly good looking, I would date someone that wasn't the prettiest girl around but someone I could feel comfortable being around. Never dated anyone like that so its hard to tell, but again if it was someone I could stand being around and was fun to be with I don't think it would be a problem Smoker, drinker doesn't matter that much, I drink a bit and smoke socially (when drunk) so that wouldn't matter at all. Depends on who set this blind date up.... Before I started working full time, the girl I'm dating now (and was dating back then as well) already had a part-time job and therefore made more money than me. It didn't really bother me that much at the time, but what bothered me was when I started working and was making more money than she was, she was very reluctant to let me give her money for anything. You would think that after 3.5 years she would realise that there is a bit of give and take in a relationship? oh well.... Back to the original question, no it wouldn't bother me if she made more money than I did.
1. Not an issue if a lady I meet is like 25 or older. I assume the maturity will be there. This category would matter less if the lady had a good, attractive face. 2. I am methodist (possibly the most laid back religion ever), and the girl's religion can't have values that are too extreme than mine. This category would matter less if the lady had a good, attractive face. 3. Something about a good, superfine looking face. Just read the last sentences from criterion 1,2,5,7 4. Never, probably not, Never 5. I would prefer not to date a smoker and dating a drinker is less of an issue. But if she is an alcoholic,....never. My dad is an alcoholic, and it nearly ripped our family apart. He is sober now for three years. The first sentence would matter less if the lady had a good, attractive face. 6. Not open to blind dates. Hell, what if the lady has an ugly face? 7. Not at all. Money may bring security, but love and good chemistry bring happiness. It would be a bonus if the lady had a good, attractive face. Let's get to the point. A girl with a good, attractive face means a lot to me. For ex. a girl can have the best behind, nice looking boobs, but if her face is ,well........ugggh....then the interest is just not there. I feel that personality plays a big part though. Since we are talking about dating, (and not one-night stands), then personality has to play a role. The lady needs to have a bright outlook on life. The lady needs to smile and be kind. She can't be spolied. As for my roommate, here is his criterion.... The lady must have at least one arm, must have two legs. and she can not be fat because...as my roommate said "There only needs to be one fat one in the family."
